Greg--having been raised Catholic myself I know exactly the type of people you are talking about. I could tell you plenty of stories of dysfunctional families where the mother was so into church and religion that she ignored what was going on right under her nose--and there was some very BAD stuff going on underneath her nose. It's funny because it's always the women, it seems. I guess that is because the home is the only place in Catholicism where women have power. Of course this is not confined to Catholicism. But what is it about religion that attracts women and repels men? I'd like to know. Even as long ago in the 19th century American feminists like Elizabeth Cady Stanton observed that women are the backbone of the church and that if they all walked out the men who were in charge would be preaching to largely empty buildings. But that's another topic.
Today I visited a Lutheran church because I was invited by a coworker and his family and I know it means a lot to them. After the service I was cornered by a woman who I would say was probably in her 60's or 70's--definitely older than me, and I am no spring chicken. When she found out I was going to the Unitarian church and was very happy there she said "But they don't believe in Christ!" Well--that is true, but I am sure that if you wanted to believe in Christ the Unies won't hold it against you. After all, they have ATHEISTS there (OMG! Shocking! What is the world coming to?) I said the big attraction that the Unies have is that they treat you like an adult. They don't cram a particular belief down your throat--they only offer you information and if it fits you pick it up, if not you pass it along to the next person. No, it's not for everyone. I said at 56 years old, if what I had learned in Sunday school hadn't caught on by now it was never going to catch on and no amount of sitting a pew or talking to a pastor is going to change things. I mean she was very well meaning but, number one, SHE WAS NOT LISTENING to what I had to say, and number two, there was nothing she or anyone else could say that I haven't heard already before at my age. For God's sake I am not a little kid. I've been around the block, I've had a number of experiences, I'm dealing with Aspergers, and you think by offering me well-worn platitudes that it is going to change me? Stop trying to put a notch on your Bible and start seeing me as a human being! If, at age 56, I have decided to "reject" what has been offered me all these years, don't you think that perhaps just maybe I might have very good reason to do so? And until you understand those reasons, until you understand what has led me to think and feel as I do, there's no use talking about it. Because dear lady, you just might find that I can run rings around you when it comes to Bible knowledge. As the discussion continued it also became very clear that she is one of those other world focused people. Well, I am sorry, but I have also found that when I start taking my eyes OFF my life and putting them on JESUS then my life starts spiraling out of control because I am not paying attention to the things that I should be paying attention to, which are the things of THIS world, not the next. So here's my rant, too.