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Picking a word out of a sentance and cogitating over it. Is this incorrect?

Suzanne

Suzanne

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I tried asking nt's but no conclusive answer.

Quite a few times, I seem to pick on a word and expand on it and did this the other day and this chap, who does not even know me, criticised me for forgetting the whole sentance or as he assumed, making the rest of the sentance null and void. To be honest, it took me a few seconds to realise that he was having ago at me, but I was too angry to defend myself.

Is it incorrect to pick on a word out of a sentance?

I find it all frightening because the general idea is that: well one just knows when something is wrong to say and refuse to see that for me, it feels like a foreign language, because each time I open my mouth, I see frowning faces and yet, pretty sure they say weird things.
 
I don't think it's wrong per se but, doing that could mean that you are taking one word or short phrase out of context and, thus not able to grasp the full meaning of what the speaker said and, that does tent to offend people.

Maybe try hearing all of what the say, then try to put it into a word or short phrase that captures the meaning you believe you heard, thus allowing you to focus on a small, concise bit of information but, instead of being a quote of what was said, it's a mental summary you thought of yourself.
 
Beverly said:
I don't think it's wrong per se but, doing that could mean that you are taking one word or short phrase out of context and, thus not able to grasp the full meaning of what the speaker said and, that does tent to offend people.

Maybe try hearing all of what the say, then try to put it into a word or short phrase that captures the meaning you believe you heard, thus allowing you to focus on a small, concise bit of information but, instead of being a quote of what was said, it's a mental summary you thought of yourself.
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I shall explain further. My husband said that it wouldn't be boring to all be alike and suddenly I thought: well, perhaps so at first, but we might get bored with that, after a time and thus, want a bit of a challenge. I was picked on for concentrating on the word: bored and not taking in the whole sentance, but actually I did.
 
AsperDragon said:
I do this alot. I have an extremely high verbal comprehension so words hold such rich meanings for me. Just keep being you....
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I am certainly working on being me, but gets very discerncerting when others react negatively with me. But yes, indeed you have said it, I now see that words are very interesting to me.

This morning my husband said something and then used the word: speculative and he would not take my word for it when I explained that it was not the right word and so, looked it up and he was rather sweet, because he fully saw that he was incorrect. Oh and I was not being demonstrative
 
It's unsettling when people use the wrong words. It doesn't even feel like they are lying, but rather like they may lack some basic comprehension. It makes it difficult to communicate, let alone to trust the communication process.
 
Just let him know that this is one of your special powers and that he can be your sidekick and support you when others react negatively. Hopefully, he will find some humor in that.
 
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