Why are phones calls such a dread?
I will postpone making phone calls to ask about a bill, change an appointment, anything that requires having to talk to someone. I love this new 'press 1 for that and 2 for this' because you don't actually have to talk. I also used to answer my phone, they'd ask for me and I'd ask who's calling. If it was something important I'd then tell them it was me, if not I'd take a message. Now with caller id I just don't answer numbers I don't recognize and if it's important they can leave a message.
But even personal phone calls are dreaded. I used to hate calling someone and they immediately say they don't like talking on the phone. I feel insulted so I can't do that to someone else. When someone asks for my phone number I don't know how to not give it to them. But then if they call and don't leave a message I'm not going to call them back. If they do leave a message, I'm like "Darn." I used to have a home phone and give that number out because I'd never answer it, but I don't anymore.
I have a hard time calling my kids. I tell them that they're the ones with the schedules so I leave it to them to call me. But when I do need to call one of them I dread it like any other call and not really sure why. I always enjoy talking to them. It's getting harder and harder though.
My oldest sister used to call me every single day and I hated that. Most the time I'd try to get off the phone by saying, "Well, I've got nothing" and she'd say she doesn't either (meaning nothing new to talk about) but then she'd keep me on the phone. And when she did have things to talk about, it was usually things I didn't want to hear about. But a several months ago - it's kind of of ironic. She kept wanting to discuss gun control and I didn't want to because I already knew we disagreed and not going to influence the other. I told her I didn't want to talk politics of any kind because talking politics these days leads to anger, which leads to people turning against each other and eventually leads to violence. She kept saying things, so I finally said something back, which made her mad and she quit calling me. LOL Since then, she calls me about once every 3-4 weeks. And since my fall out with my other sister and brother, so I don't want any of them to know anything my kids or I do, I still don't have things to talk about because I don't want her passing it along to them. Ok - this one worked out for the better.
Oh, and when I am on the phone, I'm giving my undivided attention so it is taking me away from whatever I'm doing. And when the other person is doing things while they talk or even in moments of silence, I get very frustrated.
But WHY is it so hard making and taking phone calls?
I will postpone making phone calls to ask about a bill, change an appointment, anything that requires having to talk to someone. I love this new 'press 1 for that and 2 for this' because you don't actually have to talk. I also used to answer my phone, they'd ask for me and I'd ask who's calling. If it was something important I'd then tell them it was me, if not I'd take a message. Now with caller id I just don't answer numbers I don't recognize and if it's important they can leave a message.
But even personal phone calls are dreaded. I used to hate calling someone and they immediately say they don't like talking on the phone. I feel insulted so I can't do that to someone else. When someone asks for my phone number I don't know how to not give it to them. But then if they call and don't leave a message I'm not going to call them back. If they do leave a message, I'm like "Darn." I used to have a home phone and give that number out because I'd never answer it, but I don't anymore.
I have a hard time calling my kids. I tell them that they're the ones with the schedules so I leave it to them to call me. But when I do need to call one of them I dread it like any other call and not really sure why. I always enjoy talking to them. It's getting harder and harder though.
My oldest sister used to call me every single day and I hated that. Most the time I'd try to get off the phone by saying, "Well, I've got nothing" and she'd say she doesn't either (meaning nothing new to talk about) but then she'd keep me on the phone. And when she did have things to talk about, it was usually things I didn't want to hear about. But a several months ago - it's kind of of ironic. She kept wanting to discuss gun control and I didn't want to because I already knew we disagreed and not going to influence the other. I told her I didn't want to talk politics of any kind because talking politics these days leads to anger, which leads to people turning against each other and eventually leads to violence. She kept saying things, so I finally said something back, which made her mad and she quit calling me. LOL Since then, she calls me about once every 3-4 weeks. And since my fall out with my other sister and brother, so I don't want any of them to know anything my kids or I do, I still don't have things to talk about because I don't want her passing it along to them. Ok - this one worked out for the better.
Oh, and when I am on the phone, I'm giving my undivided attention so it is taking me away from whatever I'm doing. And when the other person is doing things while they talk or even in moments of silence, I get very frustrated.
But WHY is it so hard making and taking phone calls?