Otenba
Maverick
I've never thought of it like that before. I agree!Because you know your mind will be trapped. And you don't know for how long.
I also think it doesn't help that you can't see the person, to try and read their body language if you want to.
I hate answering phones. Even have reasonable adjustments at work so they're kept to a minimum so I don't get stressed by them (my employer deal particularly with vulnerable people, alongside the general public, so challenging calls are commonplace - I've tried to do it and it ends up making me ill). I struggle to do the customer service thing well, despite doing training, and doing a college course about customer service. CBT helped with some understanding of what was happening, but not enough to stop problems occuring.
It's frustrating, but considering all the effort I've made to rectify how I am with no continuous success, I'm at a loss on what else I can do so ended up asking employer for help with keeping my employment there. They were good; changed my role and set up reasonable adjustments in the new role. Much better now. I am thankful.
As for personal life, husband is a star. Takes calls whenever he can on my behalf. I sometimes challenge myself to call companies so I don't have to rely on him completely, because I know they're less likely to be emotionally loaded calls so feel safer trying to do them because the person is less likely to be confusing. It's funny sometimes because I recognise what I learnt from my customer service education in how the professional people are on the phone. Some are so gifted with their customer service soft skills. I am happy for them, and it impresses me.