OK, this is a reason why I should die right here.

[Aspychata]

This was another great post, sometimes there is a toxic inner dialog that is you drinking the Jim Jones kool-aid. Don't
fall for the hype.

 

[Chonebox]

When i worked at a warehouse I got there an hour before anyone else, that includes the manager. As soon as the manager showed up I went in. The manger would kick me out because I wanted to work longer so I wouldn't have that problem although we didn't have the option to fill in time sheets. My parents did the same. If you work more than the other workers and work better than other workers they will be afraid to fire you. That's what you need to do. My step mother didn't take those 10 minute breaks, she worked through it and she started work early and left late. When she quit the company begged her not to quit.

 

[Metalhead]

When i worked at a warehouse I got there an hour before anyone else, that includes the manager. As soon as the manager showed up I went in. The manger would kick me out because I wanted to work longer so I wouldn't have that problem although we didn't have the option to fill in time sheets. My parents did the same. If you work more than the other workers and work better than other workers they will be afraid to fire you. That's what you need to do. My step mother didn't take those 10 minute breaks, she worked through it and she started work early and left late. When she quit the company begged her not to quit.

I remember when I worked at a sheet metal factory 20 years ago, I always put out 140-150% most shifts, my products were always high quality, and I worked 60 hour weeks most week. I was hoping for a promotion, so when one such position in my department came up, I signed up to be considered.

They did not consider me for the promotion. They gave the promotion to a guy who advertised on his time sheets that he was slacking off for more than two hours very shift.

Later, I found out why I did not get that promotion. They figured out that I was going to Gay Days Orlando every year, so they also decided to start randomly drug testing me a lot more often than anybody else in the shop. My boss finally one day told me he did not want a homosexual working under him and he was going to use any excuse he could to fire me.

 

[Chonebox]

I remember when I worked at a sheet metal factory 20 years ago, I always put out 140-150% most shifts, my products were always high quality, and I worked 60 hour weeks most week. I was hoping for a promotion, so when one such position in my department came up, I signed up to be considered.

They did not consider me for the promotion. They gave the promotion to a guy who advertised on his time sheets that he was slacking off for more than two hours very shift.

Later, I found out why I did not get that promotion. They figured out that I was going to Gay Days Orlando every year, so they also decided to start randomly drug testing me a lot more often than anybody else in the shop. My boss finally one day told me he did not want a homosexual working under him and he was going to use any excuse he could to fire me.

You should look for another job.

 

[Aspychata]

Wow, that's creepy. What a jerk. I have encountered loads of sexual harassment in jobs. It's very depressing. In Hawaii, it didn't happen, but since l have lived in Florida, it kind of followed me from job to job, which l become upset about.

 

[Judge]

Well, all of you were right. I still have a job, but just barely. I now have to fill out my timesheet every day at the end of my shift now instead of all at once at the end of the pay period, which I think is fair.

I feel like a complete rewrite of my internal scripts are necessary. I was raised to believe that even the most minor of mistakes were reasons why I should flagellate myself and feel tons of toxic shame. I know who intentionally taught me that internal script, as well. I was intentionally raised to feel this way.

Your state is subject to the law of "at will employment". Meaning essentially they can terminate you at any time for any reason. If that was their intent, based on what you posted I suspect they would have not hesitated to dismiss you. They didn't, because that was not their intent.

Though now use this experience to also realize that an employer is only going to throw out a "lifeline" so many times if and when you mess up at work or don't show up on time. No shame required. Just be vigilant about the basics. To do your job, and to try like hell to show up on time all the time.

 

[Aspychata]

This post resonates with many of us here. Lots of us are in toxic work situations. Sometimes l will take a slightly toxic relationship over a outrageously abusive boss or manager and cco-workers.

 

[Judge]

This post resonates with many of us here. Lots of us are in toxic work situations. Sometimes l will take a slightly toxic relationship over a outrageously abusive boss or manager and cco-workers.

In my own case I held the importance of holding a job and keeping a steady income over the toxicity of my long term work environment. Leaving me to contemplate an exit that unnecessarily took me two years to complete, when I should have done it far earlier in my best interest. I guess I really beat myself up in taking so long!

"Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." - Ben Franklin.