mylife2023
Active Member
My Aspie crush (we've been on 2 dates and the second was very intense and we kissed and he brought up sexual things.). Haven't seen him in 3 weeks since. He has been busy the last two times I've asked to see him. All of my NT friends say that I should just ignore him for 2 weeks and see if he even cares to contact me. He has never initiated a conversation, date, text, etc.... I know he his interested because he's told me. He behaves just like a lot of Aspies say they think and act around someone they're interested in. I just don't know what to do with him. My NT friends have said, "make him chase you. Maybe he wants to do the chasing" or " If he really wants this, he will reach out, it always takes 14 days. He will, just don't engage him."
Ive played that game before in a NT relationship. It does work. However, my gut tells me to not do that with my guy. I don't want him to think I've just given up. I also don't want him to feel like I am rejecting him. I don't want to hurt this man in any way, shape or form. But, I am becoming the one that fears rejection. I'm afraid to ask him out again. We left that second date on very good terms and frankly, I've never been kissed like that before in my entire life! BUT... it's been almost a month since I've seen him. He hates his phone and doesn't like texting or talking on the phone. He's older, so not sure if that has anything to do with that. I just don't know how to progress from here. He wants to get to know one another, he says, but has asked me very little about myself. He will answer any questions I ask him about himself, though.
Thoughts?
Ive played that game before in a NT relationship. It does work. However, my gut tells me to not do that with my guy. I don't want him to think I've just given up. I also don't want him to feel like I am rejecting him. I don't want to hurt this man in any way, shape or form. But, I am becoming the one that fears rejection. I'm afraid to ask him out again. We left that second date on very good terms and frankly, I've never been kissed like that before in my entire life! BUT... it's been almost a month since I've seen him. He hates his phone and doesn't like texting or talking on the phone. He's older, so not sure if that has anything to do with that. I just don't know how to progress from here. He wants to get to know one another, he says, but has asked me very little about myself. He will answer any questions I ask him about himself, though.
Thoughts?