jademermaid
Member
Hello Everyone,
It took me over two weeks to get up the courage to join a forum and reach out for help. I have been married a year and a half to a man with Aspergers, and I am finding myself at a point where I question if I can/want to make our marriage work. When I met him he seemed outgoing, funny, and interesting. Now that we have been together longer, I am finding that he is actually: quiet, shy, has poor self-esteem, a know-it-all (even when he is wrong), obsessed with our mutual interest to the point that I now feel as if we don't even have it in common on the same level, and has been going online talking to ANYONE available to discuss his interests 24/7 (including other women he finds attractive). I feel like we don't really have anything in common anymore, and they his issues require so much paitience and cause so much stress that I may not be able to make things work----or worse, that even if I could I don't want too. Deep down I do want them to work I guess, or I wouldn't be asking for help...but it sincerely feels like we've grown apart. We once shared his interest, but he's actually turned me against even liking it. Then reaches out to other women for support and attention to discuss it. I love him, and I try to listen...but there just isnt a way for me to fully support it when I have to be the adult in the relationship that remembers things like to pay bills.
It took me over two weeks to get up the courage to join a forum and reach out for help. I have been married a year and a half to a man with Aspergers, and I am finding myself at a point where I question if I can/want to make our marriage work. When I met him he seemed outgoing, funny, and interesting. Now that we have been together longer, I am finding that he is actually: quiet, shy, has poor self-esteem, a know-it-all (even when he is wrong), obsessed with our mutual interest to the point that I now feel as if we don't even have it in common on the same level, and has been going online talking to ANYONE available to discuss his interests 24/7 (including other women he finds attractive). I feel like we don't really have anything in common anymore, and they his issues require so much paitience and cause so much stress that I may not be able to make things work----or worse, that even if I could I don't want too. Deep down I do want them to work I guess, or I wouldn't be asking for help...but it sincerely feels like we've grown apart. We once shared his interest, but he's actually turned me against even liking it. Then reaches out to other women for support and attention to discuss it. I love him, and I try to listen...but there just isnt a way for me to fully support it when I have to be the adult in the relationship that remembers things like to pay bills.