The Penguin
Chilly Willy The Penguin
There have been many times I can hear someone talk about some of the same interest I have. I hope to have a friendship with them. But just having some common interest does not mean it will be an instant friendship. It took me a long time to learn this.
I had many people say to me have interest what a person likes, offer them support and many other things. I learned even if I do this, this does not mean a friendship will work. I could offer someone much support, but it happens many times people will take advantage me and not offer any real friendship in return.
inabox wrote a post Difficulty recognising a friend as a friend | AspiesCentral.com and within the post I wrote my comment on my process how I figure out a person is a friend or not.
What is very important everyone needs to accept you can't be friends with everyone. A person can try, but if the person is not willing to be a friend in return, then it's not a real friendship. Instead, you only a fan of that person.
There are some people is easier to make friends with people compare to others. I'm one of those others. I think the reason why it's harder for me is I have high expectations of a friendship. The key thing with me, I don't connect well with people want to follow the norm. I know everyone does to a degree, including myself, but the higher the person does, the less interesting the person is to me. If a person follows the norm 30% of the time I can except that. But if someone does it 70% or more, they might not be that ideal friend for me. For anyone who read most of my posts, I'm very different and rarely ever follow the norm. I'm not afraid what people think of me based on this.
For wanting a friendship with someone, you need to know first what you want in a friendship and also need to accept there is no guarantee the person you wants to be friend with will be your friend. It might take you longer to find a friend to compare others.
I had many people say to me have interest what a person likes, offer them support and many other things. I learned even if I do this, this does not mean a friendship will work. I could offer someone much support, but it happens many times people will take advantage me and not offer any real friendship in return.
inabox wrote a post Difficulty recognising a friend as a friend | AspiesCentral.com and within the post I wrote my comment on my process how I figure out a person is a friend or not.
What is very important everyone needs to accept you can't be friends with everyone. A person can try, but if the person is not willing to be a friend in return, then it's not a real friendship. Instead, you only a fan of that person.
There are some people is easier to make friends with people compare to others. I'm one of those others. I think the reason why it's harder for me is I have high expectations of a friendship. The key thing with me, I don't connect well with people want to follow the norm. I know everyone does to a degree, including myself, but the higher the person does, the less interesting the person is to me. If a person follows the norm 30% of the time I can except that. But if someone does it 70% or more, they might not be that ideal friend for me. For anyone who read most of my posts, I'm very different and rarely ever follow the norm. I'm not afraid what people think of me based on this.
For wanting a friendship with someone, you need to know first what you want in a friendship and also need to accept there is no guarantee the person you wants to be friend with will be your friend. It might take you longer to find a friend to compare others.