Hi guys!
I’m new here, I was just diagnosed a week ago and I feel like A LOT in my life FINALLY makes sense. The only thing now is..my long term bf is having a hard time with my diagnosis…even though I’ve always been me. I wanted the diagnosis because I needed to understand more about myself, and to get compassion and understanding from people. It seems like it’s too much for him and he’s overwhelmed. He doesn’t like to open up, so he won’t talk to anyone about it, but just yesterday he said “sometimes I wish I didn’t know.” But see…I NEEDED him to know, because he would always say “I hate the way you think!!” Or “why don’t you listen!!?? You never listen!!!”
He has since apologized upon finding out about my Autism Diagnosis, and he’s trying to be more calm and patient with me, but I think we need help. My thought process isn’t going to change, and I think he’s afraid of having to change too much of himself to be with me. I don’t see it as changing himself, I just think it’s being understanding.
How have you all dealt with NT&ND relationships? I could use some suggestions.
Thanks!
-D
I’m new here, I was just diagnosed a week ago and I feel like A LOT in my life FINALLY makes sense. The only thing now is..my long term bf is having a hard time with my diagnosis…even though I’ve always been me. I wanted the diagnosis because I needed to understand more about myself, and to get compassion and understanding from people. It seems like it’s too much for him and he’s overwhelmed. He doesn’t like to open up, so he won’t talk to anyone about it, but just yesterday he said “sometimes I wish I didn’t know.” But see…I NEEDED him to know, because he would always say “I hate the way you think!!” Or “why don’t you listen!!?? You never listen!!!”
He has since apologized upon finding out about my Autism Diagnosis, and he’s trying to be more calm and patient with me, but I think we need help. My thought process isn’t going to change, and I think he’s afraid of having to change too much of himself to be with me. I don’t see it as changing himself, I just think it’s being understanding.
How have you all dealt with NT&ND relationships? I could use some suggestions.
Thanks!
-D