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New to this, figuring out and accepting who I am

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Midlife Epiphany

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I'm 47 and though a breakup and therapy found that I have a lot traits that fall into the ASD category. There's nothing "wrong with me", now I know that.

The thing I 'm struggling with the most right now is finding out that many of my friendships were only one-way.

I have VERY few close friends, realizing I was just trying to fit in.
 
Hi and welcome to the forum. There's a lot of us here that didn't find out about autism until midlife or later, me included. Diagnosed at 55.
 
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Several of us are on the same path. Like others have said, you aren't alone. Therapy is a very good thing. Don't let anyone stigmatize it.
 
You find out after a while, a lot of who you thought were friends were really just acquaintances, What I have found my real friends were fellow Aspies.
 
Midlife Epiphany said:
I'm 47 and though a breakup and therapy found that I have a lot traits that fall into the ASD category. There's nothing "wrong with me", now I know that.

The thing I 'm struggling with the most right now is finding out that many of my friendships were only one-way.

I have VERY few close friends, realizing I was just trying to fit in.
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You will find that many of us here were diagnosed or realized later in life that we were autistic. And that once you learn about it, you realize your life becomes understandable.
Midlife Epiphany said:
The thing I 'm struggling with the most right now is finding out that many of my friendships were only one-way.
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In other words, they were manipulating you and taking advantage of you. I lived that lie trying to fit in for years, having false friendships I knew were false and one way was better than no friendships at all. These are definitely not friends, as I understand the concept. Fortunately, I am over that.

Welcome. You will find REAL friends here, at least as much as you can have friends online.
 
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