New app telling which men to avoid

[Rocco]

A few men? You're using a version of exaggerate/embellish/weaponize, except with "minimize" instead of exaggerate.
IRL you'd expect the numbers of XX stalkers/doxxers and the numbers of their XY victims to be more or less equal.

Note that if only really bad behavior was doxxed you'd get way fewer XYs. But that's not how malicious gossip works. You actually expect to get massive "over-targeting" of normie XYs.

Anyway it's clear you're not actually participating, so we're at an impasse. Let's end our dialog here.

I am and was participating when I replied to the original post. Then I sought clarification on the gibberish you wrote. I still do not quite know what you are talking about but I think you do not know what you are talking about either. I will just assume you are in the women=BAD and men are victims camp. I’m finished trying to decipher whatever it is you are saying or trying to justify. You quoted me so I replied.

 

[Magna]

What I guess I don't understand about the app is that it seems to have been designed for women to post personal information about men without their consent, various levels of doxing. Isn't that what the female users of the app are upset about happening to them?

Also, would an app created exclusively for men to share dating information about women and also specifically excluding women from the app be something that would meet approval?

 

[thejuice]

What I guess I don't understand about the app is that it seems to have been designed for women to post personal information about men without their consent, various levels of doxing. Isn't that what the female users of the app are upset about happening to them?

Yes. Eventually your words and actions will come back to get you.

Also, would an app created exclusively for men to share dating information about women and also specifically excluding women from the app be something that would meet approval?

Anti-discrimination laws mean it's illegal to have men's spaces. For example in Australia, Men's Sheds for male mental health was not allowed to be men only. Ive been to one here and it's mixed. I think it's healthy to have gendered spaces sometimes, you can be more yourself and the social dynamics make it feel safe to open up. Same as a female support group.

It would be interesting to find if anti discrimination law extends to the world wide web. I would think an app maker in Australia would be breaking the law to make a doxxing app just for malicious men to harass and bully women (In addition to the clearly obvious and unacceptable libel)

 

[Hypnalis]

I am and was participating when I replied to the original post. Then I sought clarification on the gibberish you wrote. I still do not quite know what you are talking about but I think you do not know what you are talking about either. I will just assume you are in the women=BAD and men are victims camp. I’m finished trying to decipher whatever it is you are saying or trying to justify. You quoted me so I replied.

Interesting that I have two people trying this on me at the same time /lol.

I have a lot of experience writing professionally. Not fiction. I worked a long time in a S/W sales organization, and was one of the "go to guys" for writing the technical part of proposals.

So I know how good I am at writing. Including my strengths and my weaknesses.

When people post something like your post (the one I'm replying to), or claim I have problems with my grammar (lol) they're telling on themselves.

Naturally I'm open to your providing a detailed explanation of my failings as a writer, sing the posts you couldn't understand. But FYI: its been tried before, so far without success.

Or there's the easy way out (for both of us - this is no longer interesting to me).
Let it go.

Law of holes - Wikipedia

 

[Mary Terry]

Interesting that I have two people trying this on me at the same time /lol.

I have a lot of experience writing professionally. Not fiction. I worked a long time in a S/W sales organization, and was one of the "go to guys" for writing the technical part of proposals.

So I know how good I am at writing. Including my strengths and my weaknesses.

When people post something like your post (the one I'm replying to), or claim I have problems with my grammar (lol) they're telling on themselves.

Naturally I'm open to your providing a detailed explanation of my failings as a writer, sing the posts you couldn't understand. But FYI: its been tried before, so far without success.

Or there's the easy way out (for both of us - this is no longer interesting to me).
Let it go.

Law of holes - Wikipedia

Your grasp of proper punctuation and writing complete, grammatical sentences is very poor.

 

[Hypnalis]

Your grasp of proper punctuation and writing complete, grammatical sentences is very poor.

adversus solem ne loquitor

 

[Rocco]

oKaY.
Thank you for a hearty laugh. This may come as a surprise but you have no authority over me. You have no ownership of this thread or website. I will stop responding to you when you stop quoting me and bragging about yourself. I will not do research just trying to understand you and definitely will not be following your links for holes, triads, or anything else.
You have a good day, or not, whatever floats your boat.

…
I have a lot of experience writing professionally.
…
Or there's the easy way out (for both of us - this is no longer interesting to me).
Let it go.

 

[Jonn]

Just noticed that people talk about it a lot. It is named "Tea Dating Advice". It's an app for women to talk about men they dated. Ideally it was supposed to be an app where women can tell one another not to date someone because he's abuser, married etc, so it was supposed to be a women supportive app. In reality it's the app where everyone can make an account and say whatever lie they want about any men.

I'm sure soon same app will appear about women.

Your thoughts?

Nothing new.

 

[Jonn]

I think the idea of an app for women to alert other women not to date "bad boys" would be interesting to see how effective it would be. Apparently dating apps have resulted in a small percentage of men being pursued by a large percentage of women. It's presumed that in many of those cases the women those men date aren't aware that the men are also dating a whole bevy of other women equally interested in them. You would think maybe women who find out and feel jilted would report the men: "Don't date him. He's a womanizer!"

This happened to Charlie Harper on Two and a Half Men.

However....the internet has made it more clear that a lot of women may say they don't like "bad boys" and instead want to date "nice guys" but they actually do exactly the opposite. Maybe some women would use that app as a way to FIND such men.

There are such women.
Women being enamoured by violet criminals is a thing, apparently.
My guess is that it may have genetic roots from a time when "The Bad Boy" protected his harem. <shrug>

I saw a podcast once where a panel of female guests were asked to choose between the following two hypothetical choices:

"Would you rather be chosen by a prince to be a part of his large harem and live in his castle with all his other concubines or would you rather be married to a man and have a family with him even if that means potentially struggling to make a life together?" The majority of the young women on the panel chose being a member of a harem. There were maybe 8-10 young women on the panel and only two if I recall correctly said they'd want to be married and have a family. Point being, it seems to be the case that many women who know a man they desire is not monogamous/exclusive, don't actually care enough to avoid such men; the opposite.

 

[Jonn]

It certainly opens the door to reputation destruction, akin to a "mean girls" gossip group in middle and high school.

I was on the receiving end of an online hate campaign not that many years ago.
I got banned from the website because of it.
Now I just laugh it off.
It made me "strong like bull".

Yes, there are men that should be taken out of the dating pool because they have got a screw loose and behavior issues. No argument there. I'm just not sure an app is the right tool for "running down" a man. If the shoe were on the other foot, women would not be in favor, to say the least.

Society as a whole seems to protect women more than men, based on my experience.

 

[Hypnalis]

Society as a whole seems to protect women more than men, based on my experience.

I used to work for a company that started doing something that (indirectly) converted its excellent reputation into income and profits. it worked well for a while OFC.
Then it was gone, and the steady extra income from the long-term market edge they'd had was gone forever.

The gynocentric world (**) is fading. Now it's split: XX's have rights and privileges, XYs have responsibilities and duties. This isn't stable.
It feels like that commercial example did: turning capital into consumption without consideration for the longer-term consequences.

(**)
Yes, really
It's not a popular view at the moment of course, but nor is belief in the scientific method among the 45%, despite its excellent track record.

You can make quite a good case for gynocentrism being a long-term characteristic of Western Culture.

Fun fact: neither "misandric" nor "gynocentrism" are in AF's spell-checker /lol.