My Mom dropped a bombshell on me.

[JayD210]

My Mom turned 61 just 3 weeks ago. We went to one of my favorite Mexican Restaurants on the planet out there in Northern California where she and my Aunt Sharon live. They’re twins but not identical. I have my Lady with me who has Autism like I do. My family absolutely loves her, and for good reason. She’s very gentle, sweet, and loves to venture around. Traveling with her is a treat when we’re both up for it. While we’re eating at this place out there, my Mom drops the bombshell on me and said “You might be my Son but love her more than we love you”. That actually says a lot and something I already know.

Most would find that pretty crappy but if you knew my better half, you’d know why. I actually agree with my Mom’s statement and I would expect no different. I told her that too. We’ve been together over 14 years and my family absolutely adores her. I’m very close to my Mom’s side of the family despite the issues that have plagued the family over the years and continue to do so between my Mom and Sister. The fact that I’m as close to them as I am and my Mom still said what she said of my Better Half, that’s saying a lot and I’m more than okay with it.

 

[TBRS1]

Each family will find their own way to being either happy or miserable.

It's good to know that your family and you are happy.

Best wishes to all if you!

 

[Suzette]

My response to your mother would be :"I am glad you love her as much as I do. Love is a choice we make."

Just let that statement hang out there. If she is at all perceptive she should feel a measure of shame.
Parents wonder why we aren't emotionally closer to them and never look at their own behaviors.

 

[Mary Terry]

My response to your mother would be :"I am glad you love her as much as I do. Love is a choice we make."

Just let that statement hang out there. If she is at all perceptive she should feel a measure of shame.
Parents wonder why we aren't emotionally closer to them and never look at their own behaviors.

I see no reason to shame the OP's mother. Neither does the OP. His mother clearly loves him and sees the wisdom and benefits in his loving his girlfriend.

 

[Suzette]

I am sure you are right. I can miss read the intentions of others. I appologize if I have offended anyone.

 

[JayD210]

My response to your mother would be :"I am glad you love her as much as I do. Love is a choice we make."

Just let that statement hang out there. If she is at all perceptive she should feel a measure of shame.
Parents wonder why we aren't emotionally closer to them and never look at their own behaviors.

Not the case in this one. Honestly I agree with my Mom on this one. Her Mom got a laugh out of it like I did.

 

[JayD210]

I am sure you are right. I can miss read the intentions of others. I appologize if I have offended anyone.

No worries at all. I used to be exactly like that too, so I fully understand.

 

[JayD210]

Each family will find their own way to being either happy or miserable.

It's good to know that your family and you are happy.

Best wishes to all if you!

We got our challenges. She and my sister having spoken in 5 years which I’m not at all cool with but it’s not my call. My Sister is the one who needs to do a bit of soul searching and realize a few things.

 

[Xinyta]

But yeah. It's not exactly a 'bombshell' if you already are prithy to the information. But I'm glad there is a good humor about it and it isn't something malicious.