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My friends want to waste their effort in finding me a job, even though it's hopeless.

Tony Ramirez

Forever single. Persecution complex.
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They insist they can find me something, even though I told them I am a college dropout from 1997 that never returned. I only barely had a 2.0 GPA in high school. In college, I failed with a 0 GPA. I have poor reading comprehension, bad spelling, grammar and poor math.

I got one job in 2000 by luck that required college, but the boss liked me but because of my autism I lost it in March 2001. After my VESID console looked for over 2 years and found nothing. After which the first time I was denied then approved for SSD, I only make $545 month collecting since 2004.

They said they could get me employment, but I said it's a waste of time. Even if I went into a trade for technical computer work they would still require some kind of degree, but they don't understand that, but I know since every employee I looked up online or talked to graduated from college even though they later went into a trade but the college degree matter.

No one understand that, and I don't want my hopes up like in 2002.
 
You have good friends that care about you very much. They are showing empathy that they care about you. Maybe they see you are unhappy with your life and could use your time better to help the world. If you have a passion in any field of work, science, engineering? At least allow it to improve your relationships with friends who want what's best for you.

What you are looking for after years of frustration is career counseling. Social services (DARS) recommended me to try assisted employment. They have someone help enable you for a job (work together) until you're good at it yourself.

find a company like this to contact near you: Home | The Choice Group

Hard does not exist with want. No matter how hard the task, if you want to do it, it's not hard anymore.
 
They insist they can find me something, even though I told them I am a college dropout from 1997 that never returned. I only barely had a 2.0 GPA in high school. In college, I failed with a 0 GPA. I have poor reading comprehension, bad spelling, grammar and poor math.

I got one job in 2000 by luck that required college, but the boss liked me but because of my autism I lost it in March 2001. After my VESID console looked for over 2 years and found nothing. After which the first time I was denied then approved for SSD, I only make $545 month collecting since 2004.

They said they could get me employment, but I said it's a waste of time. Even if I went into a trade for technical computer work they would still require some kind of degree, but they don't understand that, but I know since every employee I looked up online or talked to graduated from college even though they later went into a trade but the college degree matter.

No one understand that, and I don't want my hopes up like in 2002.
Well, your writing and grammar look pretty good here, so maybe you're underestimating yourself in other regards.
 
So let's look at it differently. I have gone for jobs and failed. However, l have gone for other jobs and done quite well. So different jobs give us a chance to check out our skill set. Just because you didn't do good at one or two jobs, doesn't mean you are done. You kinda of have to check out different jobs as a trial and error thingamagig. So it's kinda of a learning area. If you start trying, you will hone your skills, and find out what your strengths are. So you flunk a job, guess what? Go try a completely different job. You got this.
 
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So let's look at it differently. I have gone for jobs and failed. However, l have gone for other jobs and done quite well. So different jobs give us a chance to check out our skill set. Just because you didn't do good at one or two jobs, dosen't mean you are done. You kinda of have to check out different jobs as a trial and error thingamagig.
I have worked various thingamagigs in my time.
 
My friend saw I had under $400 in my checking account at our last life group dinner when I trauma dumped on the entire group when one of them mentioned an upcoming 2-week work trip to London while my last pathetic vacation 4 years ago was too Stinktown PA. He said he would look and help even after I trauma dumped on my poor education and only job. I even told Patricia this prior when he said he would contact her and I said don't bother.

The new church even mentioned if I worked, and I told them my pathetic education, and they even said the Pastor could help, which I said would be a waste of time.

Also, my spelling and grammar sucks rotten eggs. It is only better because I am using a browser extension and google keyboard on my mobile and tablet, which corrects grammatical errors.
 

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Do not tell other people what they should or should not do with their time. Accept their concern for your well-being and their optimism with gratitude. I've never had a person tell me they'd try to find me a job in my entire life.
 
Do not tell other people what they should or should not do with their time. Accept their concern for your well-being and their optimism with gratitude. I've never had a person tell me they'd try to find me a job in my entire life.
I did that for someone once. They didn't return me any favors that I know of. The contrary, likely.
 
They insist they can find me something, even though I told them I am a college dropout from 1997 that never returned. I only barely had a 2.0 GPA in high school. In college, I failed with a 0 GPA. I have poor reading comprehension, bad spelling, grammar and poor math.

I got one job in 2000 by luck that required college, but the boss liked me but because of my autism I lost it in March 2001. After my VESID console looked for over 2 years and found nothing. After which the first time I was denied then approved for SSD, I only make $545 month collecting since 2004.

They said they could get me employment, but I said it's a waste of time. Even if I went into a trade for technical computer work they would still require some kind of degree, but they don't understand that, but I know since every employee I looked up online or talked to graduated from college even though they later went into a trade but the college degree matter.

No one understand that, and I don't want my hopes up like in 2002.

Your SSD amount seems very low to me. My deaf sister gets about $1200 per month in SSD and she works about 20 hours per week (the maximum allowed under SSD rules). Can you or your mother contact the government - Social Security Administration or whichever department handles it - to see if you are receiving less than you should?
 
Your SSD amount seems very low to me. My deaf sister gets about $1200 per month in SSD and she works about 20 hours per week (the maximum allowed under SSD rules). Can you or your mother contact the government - Social Security Administration or whichever department handles it - to see if you are receiving less than you should?
That's what my friend who is a lawyer and knows others is helping me with and employment even part time. I just believe I can't get the employment due to my lack of education.
 
That's what my friend who is a lawyer and knows others is helping me with and employment even part time. I just believe I can't get the employment due to my lack of education.

I think you can get a job, Tony. You could run errands for a business, stock store shelves, take inventory for a company that does that for other businesses, bus tables at a restaurant or cafe, do janitor work, and many other things that don't require a formal education but do require the ability to listen and follow directions.
 
They insist they can find me something, even though I told them I am a college dropout from 1997 that never returned. I only barely had a 2.0 GPA in high school. In college, I failed with a 0 GPA. I have poor reading comprehension, bad spelling, grammar and poor math.

I got one job in 2000 by luck that required college, but the boss liked me but because of my autism I lost it in March 2001. After my VESID console looked for over 2 years and found nothing. After which the first time I was denied then approved for SSD, I only make $545 month collecting since 2004.

They said they could get me employment, but I said it's a waste of time. Even if I went into a trade for technical computer work they would still require some kind of degree, but they don't understand that, but I know since every employee I looked up online or talked to graduated from college even though they later went into a trade but the college degree matter.

No one understand that, and I don't want my hopes up like in 2002.

First off. Where do you get off telling ANYONE to not bother? You cannot control people and make decisions for them.

Secondly. If I was in your position. I would be thrilled to have a friend go out of their way to help me find a job, because they don't have to do that. People care when they do that.

Even if I didn't want them to help, I would still respond with something along the lines of, "I appreciate your offer. Thank you. But I'd like to find something for myself." Not "Don't Bother". All saying 'don't bother' does, is tell people that you don't care that they are offering of themselves out of the kindness of their heart.

That sends mixed signals, considering that you trauma dump frequently.

Thirdly. Really? You cannot find a job because of just having a High School Diploma or a GED? You don't know what will happen, if your friend helps you find a job. Assuming the worst before it happens, helps no one. Especially you.

Also your Autism isn't why anything is going the way it's going. Anyone that says that either has a problem with something else about you, or is judgmental. The latter is few and far between. Despite the feeling.

The reason you have these predicaments, past or present. It may be because you are a person living in a endless cycle of misery. No one wants to deal with someone that shoots down advice and help, constantly.

Autism has nothing to do with that.
 
I'm tired of hearing crap that it's my fault. My life is turning to crap in front of my eyes while everyone else is getting better. I tried everything to improve it but nothing is working then I have to get flake here. I am done with everyone. Including my control freak mother and my insulting father.
 
I did that for someone once. They didn't return me any favors that I know of. The contrary, likely.
Do not do a favor with the expectation that you'll get something back. Only do a favor if the doing of the favor is inherently good and morally correct. Otherwise, make a deal with a defined quid pro quo.
 
Ok, it is apparent from what your friends are doing, that the "nice and helpful" process is not working. So maybe some bluntness will. I'll take my mask off fully and say it bluntly. I think your thought process is:

1. Be unhappy with yourself
2. Complain to others that you're unhappy with yourself
3. Expect others to respond by telling you that the things you're saying about yourself are wrong
4. Get upset when others actually try and help you, rather than doing what you expected in #3.

This is completely independent of any debate about masculinity, livelihood, societal expectations, capitalism, etc.
 
It sounds like some issues at home are contributing to this. My mom was a passive-aggressive control freak, which is frigging irritating. It can be extremely frustrating.
 
I think you can get a job, Tony. You could run errands for a business, stock store shelves, take inventory for a company that does that for other businesses, bus tables at a restaurant or cafe, do janitor work, and many other things that don't require a formal education but do require the ability to listen and follow directions.
Security guard. For several years it was the only work I could find. It doesn't take any people skills.
 

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