My Dads friend doesn't have long to live =( he has cancer =(

[Gary DuBois]

Is there any way i can help him his name is rick and him and my dad have been friends for 35-40 years.

He was 250 pounds at most and now that darn cancer makes him look skinny.

Im sad because he has only a few months left.

That picture was taken of him today. My Dads visiting with him over at his place.

 

[Outdated]

As you get older you start having to deal with these sorts of situations more often, none of us live forever.

The last thing he needs is people being sad and miserable around him, try to bring him some joy instead.

 

[AprilR]

I agree. Death is inevitable but he should spend the time he left being happy

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

Clean his house. When I had cancer, a group of people got together and cleaned my house and brought groceries.

Oh my gosh out of everything, that was the most beautiful thing that happened. I felt so loved and my life was so much easier.

If you could get a few people together to clean bathroom, kitchen, living room, vaccum, mop, windows, etc.

Dust appliances.

Rearrange kitchen cabinets.

Clean the inside of the fridge.

Make the patient's bed.

Wash all the doorknobs and light switches.

Dust the celing lamps and fans.

Bring a pizza for the cleaners and another pizza for the family. And/or a grocery gift card for the family

That was amazing help. Everyone is so exhausted with a chronically ill family member. Cleaning is nigh impossible. Just someone in the house, taking care of things, it brings everyone so much joy. For the patient it makes life happier, more worth living, easier to fight for tomorrow.

Less mess means more quality family time.

 

[Mary Terry]

Clean his house. When I had cancer, a group of people got together and cleaned my house and brought groceries.

Oh my gosh out of everything, that was the most beautiful thing that happened. I felt so loved and my life was so much easier.

If you could get a few people together to clean bathroom, kitchen, living room, vaccum, mop, windows, etc.

Dust appliances.

Rearrange kitchen cabinets.

Clean the inside of the fridge.

Make the patient's bed.

Wash all the doorknobs and light switches.

Dust the celing lamps and fans.

Bring a pizza for the cleaners and another pizza for the family. And/or a grocery gift card for the family

That was amazing help. Everyone is so exhausted with a chronically ill family member. Cleaning is nigh impossible. Just someone in the house, taking care of things, it brings everyone so much joy. For the patient it makes life happier, more worth living, easier to fight for tomorrow.

Less mess means more quality family time.

That's a wonderful suggestion.

If Rick has a dog, maybe walk the dog for him.
Bring Rick some flowers or a houseplant. Women like flowers and plants but some men do, too.
Offer to run errands for him or with him if you have a car or take him for a scenic drive to get out of the house and see something new.
Take him to a movie he'd like to see or download a movie or program he can watch at home.
Set up a jigsaw puzzle for him to work on or play a card game or a board game with him.

Your dad is sad about it so try to support him, too.

 

[Azeth]

One of the things I've learned, is that life experiences make one less afraid of death. But @Outdated is correct. Death is only a unpleasant topic, because we make it so. Be happy.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

I've lost a number of friends over the last few years, life.

 

[Mary Terry]

When it became obvious that my grandfather wouldn't be around much longer, I tape recorded him telling all about his marriage to my grandmother and their train trip from Chattanooga, Tennessee, to Birmingham, Alabama for their honeymoon at the best hotel there at the time. I also got him to talk about his experiences as a soldier in WWI, playing professional minor league baseball in Atlanta, Georgia, and why he was lifetime member of the Optimists Club. I still have the recording.