My Dad does not believe I’m on the spectrum

[Sarajamo]

Hi-

I am 41 years old and have been diagnosed with high functioning autism back in 2020. No one in my family is supportive about except my mom, who has passed. I don’t know how my dad won’t accept it. I am so easily manipulated by people that my family had to get the police and private detectives involved. I cannot break up with people because I don’t like confrontation or yelling. My dad doesn’t understand that I mask my autism. My current psychologist said she can’t give me a written paper I’m on the spectrum because that’s the way the law is. Can someone give me helpful advice. I am so tired of being alone and judged by my family.

Thank you
Sara

 

[NB79]

My parents don't care much to learn about autism, nobody seems in here, for them i think nothing would change much, i am 'still the same person' autism or not , that kind of attitude.

 

[Crossbreed]

Hello & welcome @Sarajamo.

May I ask which country you are in?
Are you living with your dad, or on your own?

 

[Aspychata]

Welcome to the forum. You will feel accepted here.

 

[Sarajamo]

My parents don't care much to learn about autism, nobody seems in here, for them i think nothing would change much, i am 'still the same person' autism or not , that kind of attitude.

I am so sorry. Great attitude.

 

[Sarajamo]

Hello & welcome @Sarajamo.

May I ask which country you are in?
Are you living with your dad, or on your own?

I live in the US in Georgia

 

[Judge]

It's a tragic dynamic I understand all too well. The only two relatives in my social orbit fit only the third category. Consequently I have increasingly less contact with them.

Our difficult reality relative to those we interact with:

* A very few will want to understand and succeed.
* A few more will want to understand and fail.
* With the vast remainder being indifferent, expecting- even demanding that we conform to their patterns of thought and socialization. Even if and when we neurologically are incapable of doing so.

Autism in itself is a difficult thing for most people to understand, whether one wants to or not even bother. Regardless of how close our bonds with others may be based upon by blood, friendship or love.

 

[VictorR]

My current psychologist said she can’t give me a written paper I’m on the spectrum because that’s the way the law is.

It sounds like they're misunderstanding HIPPA law.

They have a professional obligation to not disclose client info information unless medically necessary or legally required to, but if a client asks and provides clear and informed consent, they can release info, especially if it's to the client themselves.

 

[Crossbreed]

I live in the US in Georgia

I have kids that do not accept my diagnosis. My mom is not unkind, but she has no concept of level-1 autism.

Are you on disability, or employed?

 

[Judge]

It sounds like they're misunderstanding HIPPA law.

They have a professional obligation to not disclose client info information unless medically necessary or legally required to, but if a client asks and provides clear and informed consent, they can release info, especially if it's to the client themselves.

That's my understanding as well. See "patient authorization" when it comes to exceptions to HIPPA terms and conditions regarding confidentiality.

"You can provide written authorization for your provider to release specific information to a person or entity of your choosing."

Mental Health Confidentiality Laws and Their Exceptions