Fade2black
Well-Known Member
I've always hated them all. Yesterday, I should have called my 78yo mother, but I didn't. I sent her an email to say Happy Mothers day and I'm sure it broke her heart that I didn't call. But, I couldn't. It's just too difficult to be fake when the only reason for being celebratory is because society says we must.
Birthdays are bad, I don't want people to know it's my birthday and I've had to ask my kids not to wish me a happy b-day or to celebrate. At Christmas time, we don't put up a tree or lights, it's just too stressful and, in my opinion, a waste of time. I do buy presents for my kids, because it's obligatory but that's as much as I can manage.
My wife and son are NT and I can see the disappointed looks on their faces, but they 'get it.' Only recently have I discovered I'm not alone in being an Aspie who despises holidays.
The reason I'm making this post is that I am 100% sure there are other Aspies who feel the same as I do, and who carry the same guilt for feeling this way. Just wanted to let you know, you're not alone in the way you feel.
Birthdays are bad, I don't want people to know it's my birthday and I've had to ask my kids not to wish me a happy b-day or to celebrate. At Christmas time, we don't put up a tree or lights, it's just too stressful and, in my opinion, a waste of time. I do buy presents for my kids, because it's obligatory but that's as much as I can manage.
My wife and son are NT and I can see the disappointed looks on their faces, but they 'get it.' Only recently have I discovered I'm not alone in being an Aspie who despises holidays.
The reason I'm making this post is that I am 100% sure there are other Aspies who feel the same as I do, and who carry the same guilt for feeling this way. Just wanted to let you know, you're not alone in the way you feel.