More socially isolated than ever before.

[Cryptid]

@Markness
So . . . nothing physical is impeding your activities, only your own mental/emotional state.

 

[Markness]

I believe the idea is that if you participate in activities that you truly enjoy
with an attitude of making acquaintances based on friendliness, minus
the *OMG. Time is running out and I still don't have a GF* aura, it's more
likely that some natural friendships could develop.

My older brother would give me flack for not getting girlfriends.

 

[tree]

My older brother would give me flack for not getting girlfriends.

So?

He has a problem with that?

He loses face/status because of this?
Or what?

 

[Dagan]

You certainly want friendship and truly knowing and accepting one another to be your foundation, per a relationship. Per one that turns romantic, it's even more important. I told my kids a time or two about this, and why. See, although romance turns physical and feelings, hormones and sex become part of the equation...it makes up barely a fraction of the time you two will spend together. More importantly in such a relationship will be if you can seriously tolerate just sitting next to each other, not even touching and even silently enjoying each other's company.

For me, especially, an example is that if I can't just sit with a gal in a theater and enjoy a movie together, and for that bit of time, it's perfectly enough and feels the best way comfortable...then there's going to be troubles way later on, if we stay together. Think of way older couples. I don't want to creep anyone out, but I don't think they're in the sack all day and night just getting it on, haha. All the times I stayed at grandma's house, the walls weren't knocking, if you know what I mean (thankfully so). No, they have a cerebral connection as a foundation, and that blends into an emotional connection and so on. They also were constantly jokingly picking at each other a lot, but that may not be so normal, haha. I feel like I picked up on what really matters, though. I tried hard to be such a person and pick such a partner, but it takes more than one person to have the same mindset and goals and ethics to make it work. So, as much as you alone have your worries and expectations and goals...it still has to align with your partner overall. It therefore proves you have to truly know each other in full.

 

[Masked Man]

My older brother would give me flack for not getting girlfriends.

... "Would." As in past tense.

You really need to get over these things that happened to you literally years ago and quit using them as an excuse.

I'm not saying that you weren't bullied - but...as you have mentioned many, many times - you are 35 years old. It's time to move on.

You're in therapy. Talk to your therapist about this and move on.

 

[Cryptid]

My older brother would give me flack for not getting girlfriends.

So what?

Either stop listening to your brother or go out an 'get' a girlfriend.