I have always been judged better looking than average, and thin. But, in my adult life it's something I've tried very hard to achieve. I looked at myself as a "project." I made staying thin a "no excuses" aspect of my life, and have weighed (+ or -) 4 pounds my entire life. If I don't like what I see in the mirror, I change it. I look at my physical body as something that was assigned to me, that I'm responsible for, but I don't have a particular attachment to it. I also know I'm female, but don't identify with that more than my "male self," that's on the inside. I'm happy I have the capacity for grooming. I have a cousin, whom I'm convinced is also Aspie, who doesn't comb, cut or color her hair, doesn't use sunscreen (so is extremely wrinkled), doesn't have her teeth cleaned, doesn't care for her nails and never wears makeup. Each time I see her I want to take her somewhere for a makeover...I don't think she owns a mirror. HA!