I've built a close friendship with an aspie and adhd guy (I have adhd). We can't move things to a relationship largely due to him not being able to plan ahead. We only see each other when he calls last minute and that cannot work for a proper relationship. He hates being this way but cannot be any different.
Have any of you had similar issues and found a way round it. For example we can't say let's go out next Friday or even loosely plan when we will see each other. If we try he will either cancel or just be miserable the whole time as it hasn't happened how he needed it to.
We are both mid forties and both have family and work commitments that mean planning is often necessary to be able to spend time together but just don't know what could work for him to make this possible.
Have any of you had similar issues and found a way round it. For example we can't say let's go out next Friday or even loosely plan when we will see each other. If we try he will either cancel or just be miserable the whole time as it hasn't happened how he needed it to.
We are both mid forties and both have family and work commitments that mean planning is often necessary to be able to spend time together but just don't know what could work for him to make this possible.