My friend has ASD and I have fallen in love for him. We do not define what we have but in my bubble it is a full relationship, we are very private about this. People just believe we are good friends. Living away as he does we are able to conduct ourselves as a normal couple but with no pressure. I visit every other weekend and I am hoping to move to be near him soon. I believe he is ok with this as he has sent me details of houses to buy.
We had the most incredible first six months together and only one meltdown came when the ILY word was spoken, two days later said "we can be nothing more" and he tells me I am his best friend and he has never let any one get this close but we can't be in a relationship, but then hours later after the meltdown subsided he gave me a key to his house which I still have.
I knew he had ASD. Just assumed he did too but wasn't ready to tell me So the last time when I visited he was very quiet with me and our texts and phone calls over the last couple of weeks had been fewer than what I have been used too. I asked him to look into ASD which he did and the only words that he came back with was Autistic Burnout.
Has the last six months been too much for him trying to be too NT and now he is having this burnout.
I feel like he wants me in his life, although he has deflected me on two occasions by saying that "I want more and he does not" ( I am actually perfectly happy with what we have ) and perhaps the last couple of weeks his quietness is that he has struggled with our relationship/freindship and the fact before we got together he had been on his own for many years.
Any advice would be so welcome Thank you.
We had the most incredible first six months together and only one meltdown came when the ILY word was spoken, two days later said "we can be nothing more" and he tells me I am his best friend and he has never let any one get this close but we can't be in a relationship, but then hours later after the meltdown subsided he gave me a key to his house which I still have.
I knew he had ASD. Just assumed he did too but wasn't ready to tell me So the last time when I visited he was very quiet with me and our texts and phone calls over the last couple of weeks had been fewer than what I have been used too. I asked him to look into ASD which he did and the only words that he came back with was Autistic Burnout.
Has the last six months been too much for him trying to be too NT and now he is having this burnout.
I feel like he wants me in his life, although he has deflected me on two occasions by saying that "I want more and he does not" ( I am actually perfectly happy with what we have ) and perhaps the last couple of weeks his quietness is that he has struggled with our relationship/freindship and the fact before we got together he had been on his own for many years.
Any advice would be so welcome Thank you.