dr.thesis
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Ok, so I'll just address the parts in your reply to my quote I've highlighted. I may not feel any change in my abilities to socialise, but I would probably definitely notice the strain to my eyes, so there's that. You've put me off even more by describing it as "almost like a power".
It's not the strain in the eyes. It's the ability to focus with the eyes which assists you to comprehend what's going on around you. Don't force the strain, just keep it focused and it should feel like a tight sensation around your forehead too. Keep that focus and read say a newspaper. Practice with it first. As I mention, it's not an overnight sensation. It's keeping you in tune with the present and allowing the brain to pick up naturally what's going on therefore forcing the frontal lobe to develop. In a few days or few weeks, if the thesis is correct, then socialising becomes natural and not forced or thought.
If you have any suggestions as to how I could have improved my romantic relationships that I was a failure in,my ears open.
I will come across this as an objective stance. Have you ever felt a connection with her? Have you ever looked into her eyes and her face that when she showed a warm emotion that you reciprocated an emotion on your face back right away to her automatically? Staring doesn't count by the way. Have you ever felt a strong flutter in your heart when she looked your way? A strong instinct and urge to protect her when you catch her eyes dilate at you? Each time you see her did you bond closer? If you do then congratulations because that's what neurotypicals feel everytime and if you do, then you have to be very high up on the spectrum. That there in a biological view is the serotonin in conjunction with the dopamine creating a powerful connection. It's rewarding the part of the brain for socialising. That same reaction applies to connections such as friends and family as well. Perhaps you were also talking at her, not with her or to her. It took me my whole life to figure it out and why I was never able to develop with people.
Keep in mind neurodiversity will NOT change. I hear what you say when you say listen to the autism community and I do. Especially the ones that are in anguish about trying to fit in society. I know how it feels. I felt alone my whole life. I sat alone on valentines day wanting to cry but numb as I watched couples went by year after year. What I'm trying to say is to remove the social blockage which will allow you to express it, let alone your emotions for those who seek to get away from social isolation. What do aspergers have in common? Lack of connection and development with peers due to poor or blockage of communication. They think of communication instead of naturally expressing it due to the weak frontal lobe. Strengthen the frontal lobe then communication will be natural, not thought or acted.
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