dr.thesis
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Hello, I am looking for a group of people that have an awareness and understanding of their conditions and are willing to try an exercise that could possibly unlock their social ques. I want to share an awaking that I've experienced and want people to have that joy. What if I was to say there is a possibility to help or at least alleviate the problems with aspergers such as lack of social ques and development with people to the point that you might be able to experience what it's like to be neurotypical in social situations. Like many of you, I suffered aspergers but I've somehow figured a way out and be able to become apart of society- but I need more people to who are willing to help me replicate result and give me a feedback. If this works, this could potentially solve a lot of issues such as socially awkwardness and maybe answer why to the phenomenon of why people lack the social ques associated with some disorders.
We know people that have aspergers have higher activity within their DNM (Default network mode) part of the brain. The DNM is responsible linked to a rested state hence, the possible lack of awareness, over thinking, logic while the frontal part of the brain which is responsible for social cues has minimum activity. While the brain activity is tapping into their DNM, when they apply it to the outside world such as a social situations and ques, it overthinks and begins to wonder how people do it, while social-cues are automatic and should feel natural instead of trying to play the part.
You see on my personal recount, for 27+ years I was always aloof and suffered social isolation. I could only play games and have restricted interests and routines. Walking into a room people would pick up right away that I was either stiff or cold. It felt like a social blockage and could only talk to a few people that made me comfortable- aka mute selection. I was Always alone and wondering how people develop relationships so easily. I suffered irritations from too much lights and noises which I believe is linked to disturbing the undeveloped DMN. I was always thinking, trapped in my head, daydreaming of things that would never come true. I wanted to be apart of society and have lots friends but it seemed bizarre to me. How can I do it? When my family greeted family and strangers they reciprocated communication and expression of feelings so easy and natural and got on well from there, but when it came to my turn it was more of a acquaintance or a pity hello. That's when I decided there must be a way out. So for a year I practiced social ques but it was draining. I did ok but it was hard to sustain conversations and relationships as it felt like I was acting more and harder rather then being apart of the conversation. That's when I suffered anxiety and depression. I wanted to be normal so that I could adapt. Infact I've never felt what a connection until I've developed something that helped me unlock the social cues.
But one day I did something remarkable. I believe I've managed to train up the frontal lobe of my brain which allowed me to develop properly. To initialise things so easy. to socialise and develop with people. Here's the thing. The day I "awakened" felt like my head was lighter. It took awhile to get into that state. It felt like I was able to take on the world and people didn't scare me anymore. My memory improved dramatically as well as the social anxiety disappeared but what shocked me the most and my whole family was this. Normally when it comes to dinner I would be laying down in my bed daydreaming or alone but I decided I was feeling brave so I ventured onto the table and sat with the family. They looked at me surprised but then I did the strangest thing. I started talking. It felt so natural. Instead of trying to think what to say, I just said it. It was like my mind aligned with my communication. I didn't feel like an actor or was I left out. It got to the point where my family were giving me eye contact and responses and asking questions like if I found a drug that fixed aspergers and I replied like it was nothing. Because I was so aware of what it's like to not develop with people, I felt a gush of perhaps a good feeling of reward but also was it felt naturally different. I was aware this is what neurotypicals feel like while I've just discovered it.
So I'm looking for people who want to break free from this problem. That's able to comprehend simple instructions and want to experience what it feels like to be neurotypical. I need feedback, responses and maybe even discussions of why or why it wouldn't work. In saying that my goal is to help people. I know what it feels like to be trapped in the mind, alone and longing for what everyone has and now I'm experiencing it. Because my social ques are so natural, my expression of emotions become natural to the point that I feel and come across normal. Sometimes I'm chatting in a group and actually look like I'm apart of the group instead of a wall paper but actually wonder if this is what normal looks like.
So here's my thesis that I wish to conduct. It might take a few weeks because you're developing the front part of the brain. The brain is a muscle is it not? Like when you go to a gym and you can't lift certain weights because you have developed the correct muscles so therefore the brain works the same way. It might not be just the mind alone but also what you can do with the brain. So as someone that only ever thought I was always aware about my body. I can only explain that when I had aspergers I felt like I was using mainly the middle part of my head and brain but upon doing this exercise I feel like a new sensation in the front section of the brain.
So here's the instructions.
Focus hard at an inanimate object such as pen for 20 seconds on and off. As if straining your eyes for a little while then relaxing. It should look like intense gaze at the object. After that control the focus and strain of your eyes to either half or 1/3 of it's strength so you should feel minimum strain behind your eyes. Learn to maintain that focus while comprehending things and reading or observing. Of course when you lower the focus and strength to 1/3 of the strain of your eyes, be sure to cover up your intense gaze with your normal or default look. Try to practice and think or feel like a pressure in the front part of your head.
Within a few days, you should feel a slight pain sensation in the front part of your brain. It's the frontal cortex strengthening perhaps increasing blood flow and neurons there which is responsible for the social cues, development and emotional responses. It's noted the humans should be inbuilt with natural social cues. What you're also doing is building awareness as well and with enough awareness your brain should fill the blanks in for the social cues and development. It should be no different to when you're building muscles.
People might wonder "all you're doing is straining your eyes" but what if neurotypicals have been doing it all along and they don't know it. What feels so natural to them compared to those that don't. The little strain in my focus is now gone. It feels like i'm aware and awakened too.
Now the final phase is this. Test it out on a person or a close friend. Hopefully you should also be feeling brave at this point. Create eye contact with them and engage in a conversation. Just make it simple, don't over think or think. It should come natural. Obviously I will be discussing this in 2 other forums for as much feedback. I only want to help and if you think you'd found a cure or a change, then you'd want people to know.
I am currently collecting feedbacks, evidence on brain research and matter into this.
If you feel any change or feedbacks, please email me at [email protected]
We know people that have aspergers have higher activity within their DNM (Default network mode) part of the brain. The DNM is responsible linked to a rested state hence, the possible lack of awareness, over thinking, logic while the frontal part of the brain which is responsible for social cues has minimum activity. While the brain activity is tapping into their DNM, when they apply it to the outside world such as a social situations and ques, it overthinks and begins to wonder how people do it, while social-cues are automatic and should feel natural instead of trying to play the part.
You see on my personal recount, for 27+ years I was always aloof and suffered social isolation. I could only play games and have restricted interests and routines. Walking into a room people would pick up right away that I was either stiff or cold. It felt like a social blockage and could only talk to a few people that made me comfortable- aka mute selection. I was Always alone and wondering how people develop relationships so easily. I suffered irritations from too much lights and noises which I believe is linked to disturbing the undeveloped DMN. I was always thinking, trapped in my head, daydreaming of things that would never come true. I wanted to be apart of society and have lots friends but it seemed bizarre to me. How can I do it? When my family greeted family and strangers they reciprocated communication and expression of feelings so easy and natural and got on well from there, but when it came to my turn it was more of a acquaintance or a pity hello. That's when I decided there must be a way out. So for a year I practiced social ques but it was draining. I did ok but it was hard to sustain conversations and relationships as it felt like I was acting more and harder rather then being apart of the conversation. That's when I suffered anxiety and depression. I wanted to be normal so that I could adapt. Infact I've never felt what a connection until I've developed something that helped me unlock the social cues.
But one day I did something remarkable. I believe I've managed to train up the frontal lobe of my brain which allowed me to develop properly. To initialise things so easy. to socialise and develop with people. Here's the thing. The day I "awakened" felt like my head was lighter. It took awhile to get into that state. It felt like I was able to take on the world and people didn't scare me anymore. My memory improved dramatically as well as the social anxiety disappeared but what shocked me the most and my whole family was this. Normally when it comes to dinner I would be laying down in my bed daydreaming or alone but I decided I was feeling brave so I ventured onto the table and sat with the family. They looked at me surprised but then I did the strangest thing. I started talking. It felt so natural. Instead of trying to think what to say, I just said it. It was like my mind aligned with my communication. I didn't feel like an actor or was I left out. It got to the point where my family were giving me eye contact and responses and asking questions like if I found a drug that fixed aspergers and I replied like it was nothing. Because I was so aware of what it's like to not develop with people, I felt a gush of perhaps a good feeling of reward but also was it felt naturally different. I was aware this is what neurotypicals feel like while I've just discovered it.
So I'm looking for people who want to break free from this problem. That's able to comprehend simple instructions and want to experience what it feels like to be neurotypical. I need feedback, responses and maybe even discussions of why or why it wouldn't work. In saying that my goal is to help people. I know what it feels like to be trapped in the mind, alone and longing for what everyone has and now I'm experiencing it. Because my social ques are so natural, my expression of emotions become natural to the point that I feel and come across normal. Sometimes I'm chatting in a group and actually look like I'm apart of the group instead of a wall paper but actually wonder if this is what normal looks like.
So here's my thesis that I wish to conduct. It might take a few weeks because you're developing the front part of the brain. The brain is a muscle is it not? Like when you go to a gym and you can't lift certain weights because you have developed the correct muscles so therefore the brain works the same way. It might not be just the mind alone but also what you can do with the brain. So as someone that only ever thought I was always aware about my body. I can only explain that when I had aspergers I felt like I was using mainly the middle part of my head and brain but upon doing this exercise I feel like a new sensation in the front section of the brain.
So here's the instructions.
Focus hard at an inanimate object such as pen for 20 seconds on and off. As if straining your eyes for a little while then relaxing. It should look like intense gaze at the object. After that control the focus and strain of your eyes to either half or 1/3 of it's strength so you should feel minimum strain behind your eyes. Learn to maintain that focus while comprehending things and reading or observing. Of course when you lower the focus and strength to 1/3 of the strain of your eyes, be sure to cover up your intense gaze with your normal or default look. Try to practice and think or feel like a pressure in the front part of your head.
Within a few days, you should feel a slight pain sensation in the front part of your brain. It's the frontal cortex strengthening perhaps increasing blood flow and neurons there which is responsible for the social cues, development and emotional responses. It's noted the humans should be inbuilt with natural social cues. What you're also doing is building awareness as well and with enough awareness your brain should fill the blanks in for the social cues and development. It should be no different to when you're building muscles.
People might wonder "all you're doing is straining your eyes" but what if neurotypicals have been doing it all along and they don't know it. What feels so natural to them compared to those that don't. The little strain in my focus is now gone. It feels like i'm aware and awakened too.
Now the final phase is this. Test it out on a person or a close friend. Hopefully you should also be feeling brave at this point. Create eye contact with them and engage in a conversation. Just make it simple, don't over think or think. It should come natural. Obviously I will be discussing this in 2 other forums for as much feedback. I only want to help and if you think you'd found a cure or a change, then you'd want people to know.
I am currently collecting feedbacks, evidence on brain research and matter into this.
If you feel any change or feedbacks, please email me at [email protected]
