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Living on your own

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Could you survive by living on your own? Would you be capable of being that independent?

I think that if I put my mind to it that I could but I would get very lonely and depressed after a while.
 
It depends really, I probably am capable of actually living on my own but I don't know exactly how I would cope, because I might somehow take it badly and incase I'm in a panic state, then there really nothing I can do to stop myself from being that way?

I could do that, but it would take 10 of me to just relax me. :lol2:
 
What a curious question to ask. I can live alone. I am alone. But I have a routine that I must stick with. I guess living is a habit if nothing else. I work as well. Desk work, but my own place in the office. So no one really bothers me much. Which is a good thing.

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No. I've been homeless many times for trying to live on my own.

I can't seem to make ends meet and my interdependent social skills are crap /:

I am however good at other at living on my own whenever it doesn't come to financial burdens such as keeping the place clean, maintaining my finances, taking care of rents and payments when they're due, keeping electricity and water off, cooking and so on. I'm just not great at making enough to live on my own.
 
MissConstrue said:
No. I've been homeless many times for trying to live on my own.

I can't seem to make ends meet and my interdependent social skills are crap /:

I am however good at other at living on my own whenever it doesn't come to financial burdens such as keeping the place clean, maintaining my finances, taking care of rents and payments when they're due, keeping electricity and water off, cooking and so on. I'm just not great at making enough to live on my own.
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Well, I have a power of attorney through a relative when means are beyond my control. So, I have help when I need help. Having a routine is stability for me. Whenever I have a concern or question, I just ask a question or make request on my own behalf. It is not so bad. There is help when others are willing to help.
 
I could, but only if I could find a good job that I'd be confident that I'd be able to hold.
 
I have lived by myself for the first time this year. It is harder than I thought it would be. I am good enough with managing the apartment etc., but I am quite lonely. I think the loneliness is a major contributor to why I've been really stressed out for the past few months. My sister came and visited me in my apartment and for the time she was there it was actually easy to fall asleep because I wasn't scared. Now that she is gone it is hard for me to sleep again.

Other than that, I like living by myself because I can do things like sing loudly, jump around, pace, or go to sleep early without disruption or comments from others.
 
I can live on my own, have done it for extended periods of time. I totally suck at it though, I tend to stop socialising and enjoy my own company and my own activities too much (I think everyone needs a balance, including aspies). I am lousy at paying bills, buying healthy food, doing even the most basic housework. My house has a 3 car garage, and when I was living there I would wash my clothes and hang my clothes up in the garage (string tied from the rafters served as clothesline) and simply take them off the line when I needed something to wear. Otherwise I wouldn't have even have had clean clothes most of the time.
 
AIDYsPoetry said:
Well, I have a power of attorney through a relative when means are beyond my control. So, I have help when I need help. Having a routine is stability for me. Whenever I have a concern or question, I just ask a question or make request on my own behalf. It is not so bad. There is help when others are willing to help.
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Yeah it helps if you have a family member or someone willing to help. I'm one of those people who hates asking for it especially from strangers.

Even when I was homeless I use to reject help from my dad, now I'm glad I didn't.
 
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I think I could manage living alone, I'm just worried about getting lonely. I tend to get depressed if I go without seeing or speaking to anyone for too long.
 
CJTheCreepingOne said:
I think I could manage living alone, I'm just worried about getting lonely. I tend to get depressed if I go without seeing or speaking to anyone for too long.
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I do that even when I'm living with someone.

Guess it all depends in how you live on your own. You could probably shack up with a friend or roomate. Maybe even find a place next door to people you know or feel well acquainted with. I always wanted to do something like that rather than live in some strange area where I don't know anyone.
 
Me, my brother and a friend once thought about getting an apartment together when going to do a college course in the city. Was just an idea at the time, would be great if it worked.
 
At the moment I wouldn't cope.
I'm terrible at remembering to take my clothes for washing, sometimes I forget to shower cause I'm so wraped up in what I'm doing, and I'm too lazy to make proper meals cause I usually suck at them.
I recently started seeing a specialist about my aspergers, and the hospital are now helping me to overcome these things as when I go to uni in 2 years time I'll need to be able to be independant as I'd have to move back to England alone. I have to make dinner once a week, the same thing/day, something I like, every time, so that I know how to do it properly. I have a schedule up on the wall saying what days I have to shower, clean my clothes, get out new ones for the next few days, make dinner and tidy my bedroom floor so that everyday I look at it and know exactly what I have to do so that I get into the routine of doing it without thinking. :)
 
I've been living on my own, for four years, this coming November. I'm able to cope. I do my own chores and pay my own bills. I also get to be, who I truly am, and I get to decorate my place, any way that I want. I don't have to answer, to anybody.:D
 
I live alone right now. It is mainly because I got kicked out of my house and never got married. (I don't think parents hate me, just you have to leave the house after you turn 18. House rules) I don't mind really. I actually like it. I don't have anyone bugging me. I can write all I want. That is my career, so I don't have to listen to a boss or anyone tell me what to do. I prefer being alone. There also isn't anyone to mess up my routine or bug me.
 
I have lived alone several times in the past for years at a time. I am not good at it. I forget to pay the bills, or spend all my money on something stupid. I once gave a museum $100 because I really enjoyed looking at their paintings and they were so nice. I never cleaned up, I just waited until it gets awful then I did an all night cleaning and would be late for work. I was always late for work. I would eat a big lunch at work, and just rice or pasta at home. I always used powered milk since I never could keep fresh milk. Usually there was nothing in my fridge, although I was a capable cook. I would let people stay at my place sometimes, and then I would have to tell them to leave eventually.
I did like the privacy, and having time to read and think and write in peace and quiet. I never had a TV. I could come and go as I pleased. I suppose I miss those things. I have been in a relationship for 12 years, so yes I do sometimes miss those things. I don't miss how bad I was at taking care of me. I could live alone again, and I would be better at it since my partner has taught me what to do, how to keep up with things like laundry and I can plan a weeks worth of meals and keep the bills paid. I think now though, I would get lonely without someone.
 
I live on my own (well, kind of - it's an adult house share). I get the freedom I want, I don't have my father watching over me with his "my solutions work for every, you must do as I say" attitude (he showed a complete lack of understanding of AS, in his books it's curable if you do as he says).

I like the solitude - I can talk to the housemates if I want. A new housemate moved in Saturday, we seem to have a nightly coffee session in the lounge where we just generally talk about stuff.

I'm far better off here than I was at father's - I'm now independent, I'm near Uni and a train station, I can do what I want, when I want without fear of being yelled at or bossed around. It's great! :D
 
I live alone. It was easier when I was younger b/c I had more friends, but now that I'm older, I find that I am isolated and easily overwhelmed. I also have more meltdowns.

Here's the thing - I think if you have someone to talk to (even a therapist, which is what I have), then it helps with some of the fear and panic. Rituals are also very important. But pets are imperative! I've always owned a dog, and that seems to help me get out of my head and become a "caregiver" for my dog.

I worry as I age, though, but then I think, "Well, if it gets too scary, I will go into one of those retirement communities where they have fixed meals and social times." I actually think I would adjust to that pretty well, so that's my fallback position.

PS I always have a "fallback position" - what I'll do if things get really bad for me. One thing I NEVER had was family - I was "disowned," but that also left me stronger and I guess I live alone b/c I have no choice... Perhaps we all can do it - if forced to.
 
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