There is a person in one of the group projects i have to work that has been, lets call it toxic, to me. Should I personally confront this person or make a formal complaint about this person?
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"Toxic" is losing it's meaning.
It started as "probably matches into the "dark triad". It was never used for normal AH's (unpleasant, rude, lazy, somewhat entitled, etc).
You need to be specific - but please not wordy.
I'm 100% confident Aspychata's "Confronting can only make this worse" is not always the correct response to AH's.
Sometimes you need to resist.
The problem with that is that it's difficult to choose the correct approach unless you've had some practice.
If you're able to describe your situation, and being assertive looks like a good option, I'll give you some ideas (something happened to me this week that might be a good example).
But if you can't control your emotions (or more specifically, if you can't handle an "adrenaline rush"), nothing I suggest will help. When I interact with AH's I make sure I do it absolutely cold - no anger, no resentment. IMO it's necessary - nice people don't win shouting matches, and peaceful people should absolutely not start their first physical exchange with someone who's had a lot of practice.
Sounds completely backwards to me, not that I expect anything different from American colleges.Depending on the subject matter, part of the assessment of a student involved in a group project is how well they integrate their own input into a group setting.
In essence, that if you cannot get along with others, you may fail in the eyes of your instructor.
At least this was my observation as a political science major, where in a number of classes I had such projects, indicative of the policy-making process itself. Where in real-life circumstances involving public policy development, it's expected to have difficulties with others on multiple levels.
For some instructors, the possibility of disagreeable adult classmates is deliberately built into such an academic equation of "groupthink". So be careful to tolerate them...even if they are AHs.
Something a friendly professor once candidly told me at the end of the course.
You could try readingSorry - I have no idea about the profanity rules of the site because I don't swear online. I don't even know where to check (online life is easy if you neither curse nor insult people
Not backward- just practical. You'll find those AHs everywhere you go- or work for.Sounds completely backwards to me, not that I expect anything different from American colleges.
The other students in this group were friendly to me, and it motivated me to participate and share my input. This other person is "toxic" to me and pushes me to not want to participate, it's clearly he who's the problem and not me. If people aren't hostile and friendly i can function completely fine in a group setting.