Is it weird that I never want to see a therapist, counselor or physiatrist because I don't want them telling me how to feel?

[Amethystgirl]

So I have low self esteem. Is it weird that I never want to see a therapist, counselor or physiatrist because I don't want them telling me how to feel about myself? If they did, things wouldn't go well in the appointment.

 

[Jumpinbare]

I suspect many of us feel that way. I wouldn't know what to say to a therapist. There would be a lot of yesses, nos, and I don't knows.

 

[Shamar]

So I have low self esteem. Is it weird that I never want to see a therapist, counselor or physiatrist because I don't want them telling me how to feel about myself? If they did, things wouldn't go well in the appointment.

Been there. I have not seen a therapist in years. They tell me how I am supposed to feel, but give no advice about how to achieve that feeling. Or they will say something like "How does that make you feel?" knowing full well I am mostly incapable of feelings. It's like they are going through a script, and have not heard a single thing I said and have no idea what my problems are. And never address how to fix or deal with my problems.

They are pretty much useless. If you can find an effective one (I have heard bits and pieces of hints of rumors that maybe there is a possibility one could actually exist), do not let go.

 

[tree]

So I have low self esteem. Is it weird that I never want to see a therapist, counselor or physiatrist because I don't want them telling me how to feel about myself? If they did, things wouldn't go well in the appointment.

The idea isn't that the therapist tells you how to feel about yourself.
The idea is that the therapist assists you in recognizing your own
thoughts and feelings.

 

[Amethystgirl]

I find therapy too complicated it just isn't for me