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Is anyone else interested in neurotypicals?

Discussion in 'Obsessions and Interests' started by Doliba, Nov 26, 2020.

  1. Doliba

    Doliba Active Member

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    Their "social language" and the little things they do that seem to make sense and the reasons they do certain things interests me. Perhaps, I've spent so long obsessing over being one that it's something I'm interested in. It's almost like a series of mysteries to solve, as if I'm doing detective work and trying to figure out why certain things do or don't work. I guess I no longer do this to fit in with them anymore, but rather because this honestly kind of fascinates me.
     
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    Greatshield17 Catholic Nerd V.I.P Member

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    I actually thought of posting a thread similar to this one; in which I'd basically ask something like, "has anyone ever like, sat down and just examined neural-typicals and how they function?"

    I wouldn't mind doing that myself, but sadly, I'm too busy with other things in my life right now; it certainly sounds like it would be a fascinating adventure.
     
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    I have lots of discussions with my NT daughter in law making comparisons. She thinks this way and me that way, and it's interesting to me. Since I was diagnosed I've thought that I wish I could spend a day with an NT mind to experience what it's like. I wouldn't want to stay that way, but just to witness the differences.
     
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  4. Au Naturel

    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    That's a really positive attitude to take. A difficult one for most ND's because they have often felt so much pain and not understood why. The NTs become the "them" that the ND "us" judge and curse - instead of an object of inquiry as to why we don't fit in.
     
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    Wolfsage In training to be Wolf King.

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    Sherlock Holmes has some useful techniques that might help.
     
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    Huh?
    A magnifying glass?

    or Professor Moriarty?
    moriarity.jpg o_O
     
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  7. Rexi

    Rexi uwu owo uwu SlightlyFilterless Atheist Science=<3 V.I.P Member

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    As they say, we have to adapt to each individual, it's more important than common knowledge. Some things rub each the wrong way and trigger a bad reaction. Things that usually are working in relationships, but not with the individual.

    My psychologist often says 'but did that work?' and the answer is no. If it's not working in the way I want, it's not what the person can understand and work with.
     
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    Raggamuffin Well-Known Member

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    I tend to find I experience varying degrees of mental discomfort when I witness day to day conversations and going's on. If the stress is very bad it starts to affect me physically too.

    I'll admit, I was a lot more amiable when I wasn't sober. I think this is because it dulled my senses. Nowadays I feel highly sensitive to a lot - and it can be difficult to process sensory overloads.

    The only socialising I've been enjoying of late is with some friends on Discord. We play a game together and nearly every single one of the players I'm in a group with is on the spectrum.

    It's nice to chat via text and voice. But, as with being around anyone - if there's too many people talking, I tend to be mute.

    Ed
     
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  9. clg114

    clg114 Still crazy, after all these years. Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    Of course I am interested in NTs. My wife is NT. Except for one son and one gran-daughter, everyone in my very large family is NT. Almost everyone that I encounter is NT. It would be hard to not be interested in NTs, since almost everyone in the news is NT. We are vastly outnumbered by NTs, so we can't help having some kind of interest in NTs.

    As far as I can tell, the only difference is how we process information. That and me being a social misfit.
     
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    I am interested in all the primate species! *lol*
     
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  11. Rexi

    Rexi uwu owo uwu SlightlyFilterless Atheist Science=<3 V.I.P Member

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    Can i add you on Discord?
     
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    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    'but did that work?'

    Probably the most important question in all of human behavior. Rarely asked of ourselves and even more rarely acted upon when the answer is, "no." One thing held in common between NDs and NTs.

    Is it said that Einstein defined insanity as the act of doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

    You go back, Jack, do it again
    Wheel turnin' 'round and 'round
    You go back, Jack, do it again

    Steeley Dan​
     
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    Rexi uwu owo uwu SlightlyFilterless Atheist Science=<3 V.I.P Member

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    I actually didn't expect a different result, I just thought that is their issue and will be there until the person starts working on it and deals with it. But it's often when people are triggered they are reacting to something. And even if you're doing a good or proper thing, that's a fact.
     
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    Don't really have much of a choice about that. What I'm not interested in is assumptions and generalizations about them or any other category of people.
     
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    Interested: showing curiosity or concern about something or someone; having a feeling of interest.

    I do have and show concern for people generally speaking. We're all human regardless of our neurology.

    I do not however have a curiosity about NTs. My wife is NT and I do ask her why people or characters on TV or in movies act the way they do sometimes if it's not obvious to me, but overall I don't have a curiosity about NTs.
     
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