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Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Brenda Babbitt, May 31, 2020.

  1. Brenda Babbitt

    Brenda Babbitt New Member

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    I am very close to my son and want to help him in all ways possible. He has no friends and no family members that will interact with him. I find him interesting and loving.
     
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    Ezra Relax, it's just chaos.

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    Why won't family members interact with him?
     
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    Hi Brenda and welcome!

    People here are friendly and helpful. Feel free to ask questions on anything.

    May I inquire how old is your son is and if he is formally diagnosed?
     
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    Because they find him "strange." Do not live up to their expectations.
    I'm trying to connect him with other people. He's so lonely.
     
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    My son is 44 and diagnosed at approximately 29. I would the only one that know something was different.
     
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    His dad does not allow him to visit him. So he hasn't seen his dad in over 5 years.
     
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    I visit him two to three times a week. I'd love to find a group where we both can attend and have a fellowship of sorts or whatever.
     
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    Hi Brenda,

    Welcome to the Autism Forums. You can ask any questions here, and expect honest answers. I would like to hear more about your son, his age, and interests. Please share as much as as you would like, and we will reciprocate.
     
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    I can relate to his experience with his father. My father left when I was four, and I did not see him again until I was 40.

    When you say that you see him 2-3 times per week, how old is he? I am 61 for your information.
     
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    My son is 44, never married. He journals, sometime looks like scribble of numbers in a formula format. To him it means something. Not comfortable going out on his own. Does not like crowds, makes him very anxious. He speaks slowly or should I say there's a time delay from the time a question is posed to the point he answers.
     
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    Ezra Relax, it's just chaos.

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    Well a church is always a place where that can happen. I started visiting a church because the pastor is a family friend and also works with special needs kids. I started hanging out there Wednesday nights where there is a small group of easy going understanding people.

    There might also be some sort of community center that has some sort of program for special needs people.
     
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    Would your son be interested in joining us here in the forums? He can find friends within the community. Maybe even a pen pal to correspond with. I found a pen pal here and its been wonderful.

    Depending upon your location there may be programs that can help him. May I ask where you are located?
     
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    Welcome Brenda!

    Your description of your son sounds like the typical life of an Aspie.
    Some of us are lonely and want friends, but, people tend to turn away from anyone that
    doesn't fit the cookie cutter of what they consider normal.

    Some of us never really wanted to socialise and are content alone or if we can have just
    one or two people we can feel comfortable with is just fine.

    Trying to change who you are doesn't really bring true happiness.
    There are things we may improve on and become more comfortable with as we age and learn,
    but, the innate self is who you are. Being yourself is all you can be. You have to want to make changes
    and desire to be the best you can be. It is a choice.

    I'm 63 and never had friendships that lasted. Never married. But, it was never a great desire for me either.
    I wasn't diagnosed until I was 58. It has been a learning of self experience and finding this forum
    helped so much. I feel I have a community here that I fit in with.
    I have made pen pals also. It does help with loneliness.
     
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    Welcome to the forums, Brenda :). This is a good place to learn about ASD.

    There are local groups you can attend. In my part of the country there are several organizations offering groups. I had just tried 2 of them before covid-19 and it all went virtual :(. They are good at showing us we not alone and to meet others on the spectrum.

    He is a member of the last age group before the "spectrum" was recognized and aspie kids started getting found and helped.
     
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    Because they don't understand him. I've tried to encourage his dad at least to interact, but since my son is "not normal", difficult to "carry a conversation", "strange...."
     
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    Actually, I set him up (registered him), but he's a bit apprehensive. I think if he'd find a pen pal, it would be great, a great start. Just don't know how to get him to that point.
     
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    Has he introduced himself to the community? We have a forum called Introduce Yourself. That was where I found a pen pal.
     
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    Welcome to Autism Forums!
     
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