Independent autistic adults of this forum what kind of housing arrangement are you in?

[Tesseract]

Auckland has socialist majority local government under Mayor Phil Goff and rates are set to increase 2-3 percent each year.

Actually Socialist, or just "socialist" (i.e. the extreme, ultra-right conservative's view of "socialist")?

 

[LonelyAutisticPerson]

Actually Socialist, or just "socialist" (i.e. the extreme, ultra-right conservative's view of "socialist")?

It's hard to tell they're fairly left-wing but rates would not need to go up if the council didn't waste money on frivolous projects.

 

[Tesseract]

It's hard to tell they're fairly left-wing but rates would not need to go up if the council didn't waste money on frivolous projects.

Wasting money on frivolous projects - isn't that what ALL councils do? Like the one that I'm in now, the Hepburn Shire (in Central Victoria). As I write this there is construction work going on outside, and I wonder how much of it is actually necessary or useful.

 

[LonelyAutisticPerson]

Wasting money on frivolous projects - isn't that what ALL councils do? Like the one that I'm in now, the Hepburn Shire (in Central Victoria). As I write this there is construction work going on outside, and I wonder how much of it is actually necessary or useful.

Yeah the Auckland Regional Council had just allocated $1 million for an unnecessary statue money that could be spent on more important things. Seriously **** that piece of **** Phil Goff.

 

[Kraftiekortie]

I have lived on my own since age 20.

MY mother did nothing. I’m quite satisfied with that.

I’m 57 now, diagnosed with autism since age 3.

 

[AloneNotLonely]

Just did a quick search on that Goff dude. You seriously do not want to own anything in an area where he has any influence. Dude is a proper nutter.

 

[LonelyAutisticPerson]

Just did a quick search on that Goff dude. You seriously do not want to own anything in an area where he has any influence. Dude is a proper nutter.

I can't see him lasting another ten years which is when Mum and Dad will likely sell where we live at the moment and downsize to a smaller home that requires less maintenance but I really don't want to move from Auckland unless I really have to because moving would be really stressful for me and I don't know how I would handle that.

 

[Aspie_With_Attitude]

I live alone in a two bedroom apartment.

 

[Buzzerfly]

Sometimes you gotta get crafty. My husbands family left him with a trust fund overseen by a troll. We pooled our social security together to live in a low-rent apartment for 4 years. It was in walking distance of a grocery store and bus system. It had a month-to-month lease option, so search for those cause they're handy.

Before that, his only options had become group home or homeless.

 

[onlything]

I left my parent's house as soon as I was old enough to do so. Currently renting a small family house with a few flatmates, although hopefully I'll be able to afford a place for myself only one day. It can be tiring to not be the only one deciding about a place you should be able to call home. Maybe after I finish my studies.

 

[RedOrangeYellow]

I was just about to start a thread asking the same question when I found this one. I too am very interested in how you all live. I'm 40 and have only just realised I'm on the spectrum. My doctor (who has an autistic son) agrees, but as a GP she isn't qualified to diagnose me. She thinks there is little point to me seeking out an official diagnosis at my age, and I sort of agree. It's a long and expensive process here, and the only real reward is knowing for sure. I'm already sure, everything suddenly makes sense.
I currently live alone since recently splitting with my partner of 14 years. We lived together for at least 12 or 13 years. Prior to that I was in my twenties and lived in various share houses. I had a terrible adolescence and left home as soon as I could, at 17.
I am just about to move cities to a big city I've lived in before - I bought a tiny apartment there and I'm excited to get away from my old life and start a new one. I can't imagine going back to living with a partner, I actually can't imagine even wanting a partner again tbh, but I'm sure that will change eventually. We sold our house and our business, which enabled me to buy this small place, but I have no idea what I'll do for work when I arrive. I can work hard though, and have had customer service roles all my life, so I'm pretty good at masking. Most people wouldn't believe I'm autistic.
I'm interested though in how everyone lives: Do you live alone? Do you cook? Are you clean and tidy, or messy? Are you good at paying bills on time and things like that? I have read that often autistics are not so good at these things, but it isn't the case for me. I am very house proud, interior design is one of my obsessions so I guess that's where that need to have everything look good comes from. I'm ultra organised too, schedule bills to be paid as soon as they arrive.
This is my first post here, if you're reading, hello!

 

[Progster]

Do you live alone? Do you cook? Are you clean and tidy, or messy? Are you good at paying bills on time and things like that?

I live with my partner. Yes, I cook, but not every day. I cook in batches every 4 or 5 days. I'm messy, but clean. I hate owing money and so pay bills straight away.
I'm mostly independent, but have a lot of social and anxiety issues, which are the main limiting factor for me.

 

[Gracey]

Hello

I can cook. Had to learn or go hungry.
Basic science. Chemical changes when heat is applied.
Doesn't mean I do it well, just means I can feed myself and family. (safely)

Can be untidy and unorganised but have a thing about germs. So, clean.

If I spent some of my 'cleaning-time' organising, planning and putting items away I'd have a happy balance

Mr Gracey and I work/worked endless crappy jobs to keep a roof over our heads.
Mr G has no problem accepting help from anywhere.
I feel fiercely independent and am awkward/uncomfortable with offers of help or assistance.
(Am learning how to ask for help or reach out)
Most times, if I want something done correctly, I'll do it myself

 

[Frostee]

I live in a 500 square foot Studio Apartment within my University Campus. It's a very isolating experience.

Before you go off and buy an Apartment by yourself, make sure that you are socially active and not completely isolated. If you are isolated, I would recommend a shared apartment.

Why are you making the assumption that you won't be employed and capable of paying off your own mortgage? Can you not live with your parents and save the money up for a house? You really can't rely on inheritance.

 

[Frostee]

I am surprised at the number of people on here who are making plans on the offset that their parents will give them their house.

What about your other siblings? You will have to sell the house and split the money.

I would never live my life with the belief that I was guaranteed a massive inheritance from my parents. I know my parents will divide their money up between us anyway.

So it's not going to happen.

 

[tlc]

I bought my first house 20 years ago, when I was 22. Totally on my own. Thankfully I did it when I did, because it was before the housing crisis, anybody could get a loan. All I had to do was show I was working for 3 months and used a 9 year old station wagon for collateral. It was a cheap house in a HOA, which was ok for awhile. Then the HOA started becoming more active and really started messing with my life. Stayed there for 17 years, through 2 marriages and divorces. Still love the house but due to the location it had to go.

Eventually I was able to get a better house with somebody else (couldn't do it alone in today's world) and sell the first house. I ended up basically breaking even for what I owed on it after paying on it all those years, sold it for a lot less than what I got it for. But I was free of the HOA. New house is on 9 quiet wooded acres zoned agricultural (pretty much total freedom) with a pole barn and basement, and much better built. Also 3 times closer to work. My new somebody didn't work out so well after a few years and even though she said many times she wanted out, it was a struggle to get her out. Last fall she finally left and I was so relieved and started to figure my life out again.

Then 2 weeks later I got very sick and my mom moved in to take care of things while I was in the hospital and recovering from surgery. However she's still here and it drives me nuts sometimes, but she is getting her own apartment next week. Turns out my dad was behind it, he still thinks I need someone watching over me so I don't wreck my life again. But I will be totally free finally. My kid has graduated school and moved out. No more parents or wives or girlfriends. Just me and figuring out my life for once, with nobody standing in my way. Still working that same job from 20 years ago too.