umbrellabeach
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My family and I are moving soon because there are so many bullies and otherwise dangerous people where we currently live. We know where we're going, but we don't know when, because the house we're moving into is currently occupied and we have to wait a few months or so until the couple living in it move out.
I'm excited to get out of the wretched, stagnant place we've been living in for the past seven years. I'm excited to set up my new room, which has a dormer and a walk-in closet. But, like the title says, I'm also scared - scared of people. Since we'll be new, and my dad will be the associate pastor of the church we'll live next to, we will get a lot of attention - a "big warm welcome" as most call it. That's fine for my parents, but I'm incredibly shy and the last thing I want is to be made a fuss over. Not to mention I can't stand people staring at me! And if I tell anyone I'm shy, they just laugh. Shyness seems to be nothing more than a big joke to them.
Another thing is that I'll be expected to make new friends, but after all I've been through - any friends I do manage to make almost always drift away after a while, and then there are those so-called friends from my old church getting mad and attacking us for petty little disagreements (it was so bad that my mom carried a taser to church for a while). Even the people I thought were most trustworthy joined the hate trend. We even found out that a lot of them are criminals helping each other cover up their sins. Although I don't think every new person I meet will turn out to be like that, I still don't want to get close to anyone, because most people don't seem to value a friendship as much as I do. We have a great time for a few weeks or months and then they start hanging out with their other (neurotypical) friends, or go away to college if they're around my age, and pretty much forget about me. This has even happened with someone who used to be my very closest friend. I don't think it's worth it to put all the effort into making friends when I know it's just going to end like that.
As much as I wish I could be known for who I am as a person, I've realized that most people don't want to build such a deep relationship, and are content just gawking over the labels (some of mine would be pastor's daughter and high school graduate). No one ever seems to care about character or thoughts, and if I were to try to reveal mine, I'd probably be laughed at, taken advantage of or otherwise disrespected. It's happened before. Considering that and my lack of trust toward most people, I don't want to even try to show my true self. I'd rather just remain an enigma, so I'm just going to be quiet and detached. However, I get the feeling that while doing so, I seem cold and misanthropic. While I want to sequester myself, I don't want people to think I hate them, because I don't hate anyone.
Basically, my questions are:
1) How do I avoid getting stared at and fussed over as much as I can?
2) How do I protect myself without appearing cold, bitter, and hateful of everyone?
I feel just like Helga Pataki, except she already has an established mean image, and I don't, nor do I want one. (In truth, she doesn't really want hers either.)
I'm excited to get out of the wretched, stagnant place we've been living in for the past seven years. I'm excited to set up my new room, which has a dormer and a walk-in closet. But, like the title says, I'm also scared - scared of people. Since we'll be new, and my dad will be the associate pastor of the church we'll live next to, we will get a lot of attention - a "big warm welcome" as most call it. That's fine for my parents, but I'm incredibly shy and the last thing I want is to be made a fuss over. Not to mention I can't stand people staring at me! And if I tell anyone I'm shy, they just laugh. Shyness seems to be nothing more than a big joke to them.
Another thing is that I'll be expected to make new friends, but after all I've been through - any friends I do manage to make almost always drift away after a while, and then there are those so-called friends from my old church getting mad and attacking us for petty little disagreements (it was so bad that my mom carried a taser to church for a while). Even the people I thought were most trustworthy joined the hate trend. We even found out that a lot of them are criminals helping each other cover up their sins. Although I don't think every new person I meet will turn out to be like that, I still don't want to get close to anyone, because most people don't seem to value a friendship as much as I do. We have a great time for a few weeks or months and then they start hanging out with their other (neurotypical) friends, or go away to college if they're around my age, and pretty much forget about me. This has even happened with someone who used to be my very closest friend. I don't think it's worth it to put all the effort into making friends when I know it's just going to end like that.
As much as I wish I could be known for who I am as a person, I've realized that most people don't want to build such a deep relationship, and are content just gawking over the labels (some of mine would be pastor's daughter and high school graduate). No one ever seems to care about character or thoughts, and if I were to try to reveal mine, I'd probably be laughed at, taken advantage of or otherwise disrespected. It's happened before. Considering that and my lack of trust toward most people, I don't want to even try to show my true self. I'd rather just remain an enigma, so I'm just going to be quiet and detached. However, I get the feeling that while doing so, I seem cold and misanthropic. While I want to sequester myself, I don't want people to think I hate them, because I don't hate anyone.
Basically, my questions are:
1) How do I avoid getting stared at and fussed over as much as I can?
2) How do I protect myself without appearing cold, bitter, and hateful of everyone?
I feel just like Helga Pataki, except she already has an established mean image, and I don't, nor do I want one. (In truth, she doesn't really want hers either.)