One of the interesting things about being on the spectrum is how we can really get into a topic, and this will be book review #20 from me on autism related books.
This book has a bit of an unusual distinction for me in that last month, a fellow forum member had asked about suitable books for their probably autistic teenaged daughter, and this was one of the two recommendations I made – though I had not read this book yet myself. I’m not one to give recommendations lightly, and I gave the recommendation on the strength of reviews I have read, and felt that I really should read it myself, and so here we are. And yes, I’ll stand by my recommendation.
This is the third book I’ve read which has been written by someone who grew up with a childhood diagnosis, after
Funny, You Don't Look Autistic and
Take it From the Expert: Sixteen Years of Living on the Autism Spectrum As with the latter, this provides a female perspective, and is written in an open diary format that gives you an close and intimate look at the author’s thoughts as you’re having a conversation with a close friend. As can be seen in the chapter list, she doesn’t hold back, and delves into some heavy topics, like friendships, trust, eating disorders, cyberbullying and mental health. A lot of these topics impact everyone, but they do more so for those on the spectrum.
I appreciate that some topics, like on having children as an autistic individual, aren’t really covered in other books – this one is only the third I’ve seen to touch on the topic. Another, on not driving, is something that is more common in younger generations, and so it’s also nice to see that as a topic. Exercise is something that we talk about here on the forums a fair bit but is seldom addressed in books on autism, so it’s also nice to see that.
She really breaks from the traditional format of "here's a backgrounder on autism and here's my life story" and I have to give credit for her on bringing up, as noted, topics not frequently covered for whatever reason.
I think what I appreciate most, aside from her candidness, is her maturity and wisdom on a lot of the topics, especially on relationships and having self-respect, along with her willingness to delve into sensitive and personal topics of anxiety and depression. That makes this a great book for everyone, of all ages.
BTW, "why don't I have a girlfriend?" related depression comes up a fair bit for some of the younger guys on our forum. You know who you are, and if you're reading this, consider getting this book and read through the first 7 or so chapters.
A welcome addition to the world of autistic womens’ stories. 5.0/5.0
