I hate it when someone says: oh but we all suffer get that; really what they are saying is that you are not unique and I am thinking: but I never said I was unique!
Someone recently asked how I cope when I talk in front of people and so, I explained how I do it and how I feel and all I got back was: yes, but I think you will find most people feel that way!!!!
I am now getting the point that I must hide that I am not officially diagnosed; as I am unable to get this "badge" and it does change the tone of people and even my husband, who is very much an nt, said that I should keep quiet about it and so I will now.
If it was not so stupid, it would be funny. But I was asked how I cope with having aspergers? I am not asked that very much, for people are not really interested in how I think or feel. So, of course, I go full steam into explaining and he said: yes, I worked along side a male who had aspergers and so I see what you are saying. Then the blasted need to be honest came forth and I came out and said: well, I am not actually officially diagnosed and that immediately changed the atmosphere. Suddenly it was: oh but who is really normal? Or, we all get like that! It is so bizarre because if someone said they suffered from depression and not "officially diagnosed", no one would question them!
I guess it is because I look normal and they equate aspergers to be autism.
Again though, when this person related something about this workmate, my husband nodded avidily and said: yep that is Suzanne.
It is hard to not be honest, but I must I see try to attain to that.