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I fell for an aspie and it hurts

He could just have been over thinking things and got cold feet. But also, you probably do need to think about how respectful it is to try to diagnose someone you seem to have only met a couple of times? Your friends appear disrespectful about him too. It is hard to help in this situation, as you don't sound like you would be well suited to each other, because he cuts of communication as a coping mechanism perhaps, and you are distressed by that. Some people wouldn't be. Moving on does sound a good idea, for both your needs to be met.
 
Relationships take a lot of emotional energy. Sometimes so much that we must either compartmentalize or even ration our efforts with logic. Something NTs seem to be perplexed by. Different types of socialization may come naturally to you, but for many of us they are all arduous, even if and when they are positive and emotionally fulfilling.

In his mind he may simply be unable to balance such efforts relative to both work and any potential relationship. It happens. Whether NT or ND....how many people are ready to set aside their work just to pursue a relationship?
 
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