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I don't know what to do anymore.

Anime Hair

Anime Hair

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I'm a 43-year-old male.virgin. I am geographically seperated from my family. I am autistic, and always struggled with dating. I've only ever been in one relationship with a predator who abused me emotionally for over two years. There were some women who threw themselves at when I was younger, but they were out of my comfort zone. Aside from that, I have no idea how often women have been interested in me if they weren't extremely obvious about it. But the point is that the years went by and I kept getting older and older, and now everyone my age has kids starting college. I'm a man-child who likes comic books and action figures; what could I have in common with someone who's been dealing with the responsibilities of parenthood for half her life? The gap in life experience between me and other people in my age group is just too big for meaningful connections. In only a few years, everyone in my age group will be grandparents. I'm not being with an old woman at some point in my life, but I don't want that to be my only experience. I would have been content to grow old with someone, but I've already grown old alone and now I can never have the experience I missed out on when I was young. I have no interest in chasing after women in their 20s like some creeper, but at the same time I just can't relate to women in my age group anymore. I just don't know what to do anymore. I think it's already too late for me at this point, and I'm afraid I might even take my own life some day. I don't even know who to talk to anymore.
 
You mentioned you don't want that to be your only experience. I'm just curious about what other experiences that you're hoping to have.
 
I was a virgin until I was 40 on my wedding day. When I was 39, I met a woman who had been married to a man who abused her and her son, so she divorced him. After a year, we got married.

She had been a single mother for about 12 years. Our experiences were very different, but we were both Christians and had found out we had other things in common. I had expected to die single, but things turned out otherwise.

Don't give up. Keep your eyes open for opportunities.
 
Anime Hair said:
I'm a 43-year-old male.virgin. I am geographically seperated from my family. I am autistic, and always struggled with dating. I've only ever been in one relationship with a predator who abused me emotionally for over two years. There were some women who threw themselves at when I was younger, but they were out of my comfort zone. Aside from that, I have no idea how often women have been interested in me if they weren't extremely obvious about it. But the point is that the years went by and I kept getting older and older, and now everyone my age has kids starting college. I'm a man-child who likes comic books and action figures; what could I have in common with someone who's been dealing with the responsibilities of parenthood for half her life? The gap in life experience between me and other people in my age group is just too big for meaningful connections. In only a few years, everyone in my age group will be grandparents. I'm not being with an old woman at some point in my life, but I don't want that to be my only experience. I would have been content to grow old with someone, but I've already grown old alone and now I can never have the experience I missed out on when I was young. I have no interest in chasing after women in their 20s like some creeper, but at the same time I just can't relate to women in my age group anymore. I just don't know what to do anymore. I think it's already too late for me at this point, and I'm afraid I might even take my own life some day. I don't even know who to talk to anymore.
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Keep your senses open. One time a young lady (can't quite call her a girl) spent more than twenty minutes coming on to me. I was completely oblivious of this until she sat on my lap and tried to suck my teeth out. That is when I figured it out (I may be incredibly naive, but I'm not totally naive). We had a terrific night together.

Don't try to be someone you are not, and don'tgive up.
 
I had similar instances at work middle of open sales area, facing me on desk I guess joke flirting. Strange I meet my wife months later got married, THe amount of money my coworkers collected for my wedding stunned me bought dining room set a with it, still own. Other gifts filled the hutch. So you never know.
 
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