Turn-taking, in many cases, isn't really in our neurology. We can get the hang of it a bit, though. Maybe it can help to have a "code word" that has a sweet meaning to him, and use it in instances when you need him to be fully present for you to share something you'd like him to listen to you about. Use it when you really need him to come out of daydreams, out of hyperfocus, out of his own world.
Imagine him feeling more confident, because things won't feel vague to him. He knows he won't mess up by missing something important to you.
Imagine yourself feeling like you have a way for your partner to be present in the moment with you, for those times when you need to share something important with his mind, or special with his heart.
Anyway, best of luck!
PS-- Yes, it can be an Aspie trait to not inquire. His heart may be overflowing with care for you, full of love, compassion, and empathy from what he can read of you. If he wants to be with you, if he does little kindness for you, he's likely trying to bridge a mysterious gap in the best way he knows how. You just may not get the usual info-gathering questions you might expect of your partner. The interest is there.. because he is!
For a sense of reassurance and fulfillment, you may need to redefine how you consider a man's "showing interest." A cat won't wag it's tail and slurp you when you come home, but purring, head-butting, and leaning into you are all signs. Know?
Imagine him feeling more confident, because things won't feel vague to him. He knows he won't mess up by missing something important to you.
Imagine yourself feeling like you have a way for your partner to be present in the moment with you, for those times when you need to share something important with his mind, or special with his heart.
Anyway, best of luck!
PS-- Yes, it can be an Aspie trait to not inquire. His heart may be overflowing with care for you, full of love, compassion, and empathy from what he can read of you. If he wants to be with you, if he does little kindness for you, he's likely trying to bridge a mysterious gap in the best way he knows how. You just may not get the usual info-gathering questions you might expect of your partner. The interest is there.. because he is!
For a sense of reassurance and fulfillment, you may need to redefine how you consider a man's "showing interest." A cat won't wag it's tail and slurp you when you come home, but purring, head-butting, and leaning into you are all signs. Know?
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