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My mother had a simple way of letting me know I had crossed the line. If she used both my names, first name and surname, I knew I had screwed up. "Forest Cat!!". That was all it took, my full name. Then I settled down. That was her growl. If I tried to cry my way out of something or play on emotions like kids do, she used a local expression,"There's no dear mom here". Meaning, "just forget it, you're not crying or talking your way out of this".
A child can't time out or duns hat in the corner for sensory needs, so if noise is too loud he needs a calm space to learn to go relax, the space isn't a corner or punishment.My mother just had to give us "the look". No words necessary. We knew with certainty what "the look" meant and that dire consequences would follow if we didn't immediately stop whatever offensive thing we were doing.
A child can't time out or duns hat in the corner for sensory needs, so if noise is too loud he needs a calm space to learn to go relax, the space isn't a corner or punishment.
If child is arguing then it could be they are lead by aspie belief or way of thinking so we can't correct that, it's their opinion, but we may break up fight or rather you should watch for signs before fight and say ok...let's break it up.
We can't really always redirect asd child because they may need to calm first or they may have trouble transitioning to another task, so deciding child is disobedient isn't fair treatment.
I usually find neuro-typicsl is one to assert belief over other, is one to continue the argument or teasing. Asd will usually just want quiet and space to do their own thing.
Boys tend to switch off to sensory even less than girls, so may affect him more and be noticeable later on tend to have pattern recognition or photographic memories for this reason so debate of giftedness is constantly open.
It is important to work on the confidence of your asd child, in their abilities and to shift focus away from problem behaviours all the time!!
One love to all!
Yes, ten living.R u saying u have 10 kids???
God just met us there.How do you cope? We knew friends who had 6 regular effort kids and oh, boy!!
Financially I couldn't afford private O.T. so state only does a bit. She was a rad lady, better than most other shrinks n speech. She would give me extra worksheets but I had to do them as homework, but I was happy to DIY and a positive attitude can really be a winner when I felt so often I was drowning.
I don't think it's bad to have many kids, I just asked in that how on earth are you coping and we are forever short on money.
Even though social development is arrested, libido is not.My autistic nephew blatantly ogled women and tried to touch them when he was a teenager. One day he touched the derriere of a woman in the grocery store, and she whirled around and slapped his face so hard that his butt bounced off the floor with a stunned look of shock and awe on his face. He has never again attempted to touch women, but he does still stare at them in a way that I know makes people think he is creepy. I wish he had the language skills to grasp that staring like that is rude and upsets people, and the discipline to stop doing it.
Individuals diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder experience deficits and delays in varying areas, or on a spectrum. This means while a child could be entirely nonverbal and need help socially, they could also excel academically. This type of child is likely to be labeled “low-functioning”, when in reality, their high academics demonstrate anything but “low functioning”.
In contrast, a child could be labeled “high-functioning” due to their ability to speak verbally and make friends but lack academic skills that lead them to struggles in the classroom. As you can see, the terms simply don’t make sense. What one child lacks, the other might excel in, and yet both have a diagnosis of autism.
Despite the ever-changing vocabulary in the world of ABA and Autism, most can agree that specific symptoms are typically seen as either high or-low functioning. A typical ASD individual displaying low-functioning, or “Level 3”
Any type of aggressive behavior in a child with ASD (particularly a non-verbal child) is basically a cry for help. Just imagine you were stuck on a cross-town bus seated next to two homeless men who smell of rotten eggs, in front of a screaming baby, and behind someone who continuously keeps flicking the igniter on a disposable lighter (no fire just sparks). It is so incredibly disturbing, distracting, feels unbelievably dangerous. The bus driver doesn’t notice and nobody but you seems to care. Now imagine that your hands are bound and you have lost your voice, and that bus just entered an expressway with no opportunity for you to exit. You desperately want to scream, but you can’t. And THEN you hear the driver announce that the air conditioning just broke and the windows don’t open. Eventually you lose your mind and become violent/aggressive/etc.Hey all, sorry it's been a while. My nephew keeps on trying to bite everyday, there are days where he actually does bite us (me mostly) and no matter what we do (like time-out, telling him "no biting/you are not going to bite anyone/etc", removing myself or him from the situation and so on) he will not stop. Help please?
There is no one-size-fits-all answers. My daughter has a mental age of 18 mos. (for an NT) and bites for reasons that are consistent with that age: out of anxiety or as a means of self-soothing. (She gives no advance warning for the second.)Any type of aggressive behavior in a child with ASD (particularly a non-verbal child) is basically a cry for help.
What would you propose to make her release you from her lock-jaw...?And slapping an ASD child who is already in distress is probably a huge mistake.
I apologize for not having been more clear. I was referring to the ways that some adults use physical violence as a means of training or punishment for bad behavior. Self defense is very important and I’m sure I would do the same.There is no one-size-fits-all answers. My daughter has a mental age of 18 mos. (for an NT) and bites for reasons that are consistent with that age: out of anxiety or as a means of self-soothing. (She gives no advance warning for the second.)
That was not such a big deal when she had an 18 month-old's jaw-strength, compared to that of a 28yo woman. Even a 12yo will hurt you.
What would you propose to make her release you from her lock-jaw...?