IntoTheVoid
Well-Known Member
Here is a thing - I hate certain opinions and it's really hard for me to respect them.
I put the "(and very stupid)" in the title which seems kinda unfair because it looks like I call all opiniona that differ from mine stupid. But when I say stupid, I mean really awful opinions, like - for example - some racist and homophobic and xenophobic and all these extreme things.
So imagine you have some really good and close friend and you've been friends for years now. And suddenly he comes with some really REALLY horrible opinion that you can't stand. It's an opinion that you really hate.
So how to reply to such a thing? Usually I want to scream in anger "Are you serious? What a stupid opinion. What is wrong with you?!" and sometimes I do. Mostly because I am totally disappointed, hurt, sad...
Someone could say "But you should respect a different opinion from yours!" but it really hard because it's really something I deeply hate.
And even though I kinda... respect it and say myself "It's ok, it's ok... so he has this opinion. Okay okay, he has a right to have this opinion! We are all different! Anybody could think anything! Okay okay. I am not the one who decides what it the only correct opinion."
But it ruins the person for me anyway, because then I have tendencies to avoid this person and not taking the person seriously. Deep inside I can feel it changed our relationship. It's broken. Ruined.
And what is worse - almost every single friend of mine has at least one opinion that is really hard to accept and it's really upsetting only knowing it.
How do you deal with such an issue?
I put the "(and very stupid)" in the title which seems kinda unfair because it looks like I call all opiniona that differ from mine stupid. But when I say stupid, I mean really awful opinions, like - for example - some racist and homophobic and xenophobic and all these extreme things.
So imagine you have some really good and close friend and you've been friends for years now. And suddenly he comes with some really REALLY horrible opinion that you can't stand. It's an opinion that you really hate.
So how to reply to such a thing? Usually I want to scream in anger "Are you serious? What a stupid opinion. What is wrong with you?!" and sometimes I do. Mostly because I am totally disappointed, hurt, sad...
Someone could say "But you should respect a different opinion from yours!" but it really hard because it's really something I deeply hate.
And even though I kinda... respect it and say myself "It's ok, it's ok... so he has this opinion. Okay okay, he has a right to have this opinion! We are all different! Anybody could think anything! Okay okay. I am not the one who decides what it the only correct opinion."
But it ruins the person for me anyway, because then I have tendencies to avoid this person and not taking the person seriously. Deep inside I can feel it changed our relationship. It's broken. Ruined.
And what is worse - almost every single friend of mine has at least one opinion that is really hard to accept and it's really upsetting only knowing it.
How do you deal with such an issue?