BirdsNest
Active Member
There is a guy I like, we share a working space but are not co-workers.
I like him, and we've got a budding friendship on the go. We see each other maybe 2 or 3 times a week in the studio space, and we've been going out with mutual friends about once a week for the last month. We've got a creative project between us, which is going really well.
Thing is he's about to go on a 2nd date with another girl- lets call her Jude. Apparently she's the one taking him on the date...taking the lead... anyway I'm gutted but I just pretended I didn't hear that bit of the (group) conversation because I wasn't sure how to react. I mean obviously I'm disappointed but I really struggled to imagine how to express it so I said nothing.
Actually a week or so ago he mentioned his first date with 'Jude' and mentioned a first date with another girl, so our mate jokingly booed him.
However I gave an enthusiastic "YES MATE!" even tho I was actually pretty sad by the news. So aware that I probably gave the wrong message here. :/
I asked a friend who doesn't know him about it and she asked me "Is he flirting with you?".
I would say that he does nice things for me -eg. today he carried my bag on the way to the park- but I don't know if that's just him being nice or flirting. I really can't tell. He does things that could be a bit flirty but he's a cheerful/extroverted people-person so I'm aware what *I* might regard to be flirting *he* might think nothing of.
Problem is I have gone into that stupid mind trap of anxiety. I really beat myself up for being Asperger's -feeling inadequate because I don't know how to deal with it. This feeds a negative cycle of thoughts and feelings which make it even harder for me.
Help please. :/
He's a really nice bloke and such a far cry from my last relationship, I really want to be with someone attentive and kind and he seems like that kind of guy.
I like him, and we've got a budding friendship on the go. We see each other maybe 2 or 3 times a week in the studio space, and we've been going out with mutual friends about once a week for the last month. We've got a creative project between us, which is going really well.
Thing is he's about to go on a 2nd date with another girl- lets call her Jude. Apparently she's the one taking him on the date...taking the lead... anyway I'm gutted but I just pretended I didn't hear that bit of the (group) conversation because I wasn't sure how to react. I mean obviously I'm disappointed but I really struggled to imagine how to express it so I said nothing.
Actually a week or so ago he mentioned his first date with 'Jude' and mentioned a first date with another girl, so our mate jokingly booed him.
However I gave an enthusiastic "YES MATE!" even tho I was actually pretty sad by the news. So aware that I probably gave the wrong message here. :/
I asked a friend who doesn't know him about it and she asked me "Is he flirting with you?".
I would say that he does nice things for me -eg. today he carried my bag on the way to the park- but I don't know if that's just him being nice or flirting. I really can't tell. He does things that could be a bit flirty but he's a cheerful/extroverted people-person so I'm aware what *I* might regard to be flirting *he* might think nothing of.
Problem is I have gone into that stupid mind trap of anxiety. I really beat myself up for being Asperger's -feeling inadequate because I don't know how to deal with it. This feeds a negative cycle of thoughts and feelings which make it even harder for me.
Help please. :/
He's a really nice bloke and such a far cry from my last relationship, I really want to be with someone attentive and kind and he seems like that kind of guy.