grommet
Well-Known Member
I am confused. Someone in my life is acting in a way I cannot understand. Sometimes it feels good but sometimes it feels unkind, I cannot clearly see the pattern.
How do you know when someone is treating you badly?
I think I may have had this problem before. I remember years ago a man at a shop I used to go to, pulled me aside and very gently spoke to me, telling me that the front end clerk was being very rude to me. I had come to that shop for years and I never quite understood the man at the front. His face seemed friendly but he would say things that didn't seem right. When the man in the back tried to help me it left me with questions. The man spoke to me so gently I think he thought I was having trouble realizing the situation and really wanted to help me. I appreciate that. Still I was not sure about what was going on. I do think he was right, I thought about the details of my interactions with the front end man and some part of me started to realize he might not have been being nice to me.
If someone is clearly rude, or hits me, that kind of thing I recognize but it's harder if the actions are not that clear. Now I am having a situation with somebody and I cannot figure out the pattern.
How do you know when someone is treating you badly?
I think I may have had this problem before. I remember years ago a man at a shop I used to go to, pulled me aside and very gently spoke to me, telling me that the front end clerk was being very rude to me. I had come to that shop for years and I never quite understood the man at the front. His face seemed friendly but he would say things that didn't seem right. When the man in the back tried to help me it left me with questions. The man spoke to me so gently I think he thought I was having trouble realizing the situation and really wanted to help me. I appreciate that. Still I was not sure about what was going on. I do think he was right, I thought about the details of my interactions with the front end man and some part of me started to realize he might not have been being nice to me.
If someone is clearly rude, or hits me, that kind of thing I recognize but it's harder if the actions are not that clear. Now I am having a situation with somebody and I cannot figure out the pattern.