pamelaperejil
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How should an Aspie handle workplace bullying? Assuming that ignoring it or making a complaint to the management would not help? Assuming that it's not possible to absolutely prove that the person is being targeted because of their Asperger's and not for some other (legally permissible, though thoroughly #######5 reason).
What ought a person to do in that situation, where their livelihood is threatened if they can't get it to stop? I still haven't figured it out. Like, I've tried being mature, conciliatory, and forgiving. Turning the other cheek. Only encouraged it. I tried ignoring it. Same. I've also tried asserting myself in a calm, direct way. That doesn't work, they just became more passive aggressive and avoidant. I've tried aggressive confrontation, and believe my that went spectacularly wrong.
How do you absolutely prove that someone is bullying you for one reason or another (when one reason would entitle you to legal protection against the bully and the other not?)? It strikes me that this must be nearly impossible to prove, and play to the bully's advantage. Because, failing that, you really have no hand, and all you can do is put up with it or leave, and those are both completely #######5 options.
My reaction to these type of situations has normally been to give up and go elsewhere, but with bad references it is extraordinarily hard to find something and virtually impossible to find something better than what you're leaving. So it's only a matter of time before the whole thing starts again. What should we do? Just resign ourselves to being $#%^ on because we're different? That's been my reaction, and it's brought me a little peace, though not much. What do you do?
What ought a person to do in that situation, where their livelihood is threatened if they can't get it to stop? I still haven't figured it out. Like, I've tried being mature, conciliatory, and forgiving. Turning the other cheek. Only encouraged it. I tried ignoring it. Same. I've also tried asserting myself in a calm, direct way. That doesn't work, they just became more passive aggressive and avoidant. I've tried aggressive confrontation, and believe my that went spectacularly wrong.
How do you absolutely prove that someone is bullying you for one reason or another (when one reason would entitle you to legal protection against the bully and the other not?)? It strikes me that this must be nearly impossible to prove, and play to the bully's advantage. Because, failing that, you really have no hand, and all you can do is put up with it or leave, and those are both completely #######5 options.
My reaction to these type of situations has normally been to give up and go elsewhere, but with bad references it is extraordinarily hard to find something and virtually impossible to find something better than what you're leaving. So it's only a matter of time before the whole thing starts again. What should we do? Just resign ourselves to being $#%^ on because we're different? That's been my reaction, and it's brought me a little peace, though not much. What do you do?