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How do all you cope with long periods of isolation?

I got married when I was 21, so I only had a small window of single adulthood. I would go to church activities that were fitting, like singles' & men's meetings, etc. (Some churches are more autism-friendly than others.)
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My wife & I are empty-nesters, now, with only my ASD3 daughter at home.
 
Personally I don't deal with it well. I am unemployed rn and i can feel my mental health getting worse. I need to find something, a sort of community to belong to.
 
AprilR said:
Personally I don't deal with it well. I am unemployed rn and i can feel my mental health getting worse. I need to find something, a sort of community to belong to.
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I really relate to you on that. The sense of belonging to nothing is driving me nuts, quite a hopeless feeling if I’m honest.
 
I started taking a language course and met some nice people. Maybe you can also start a hobby group etc, something not solely focused on socializing.
 
AprilR said:
I started taking a language course and met some nice people. Maybe you can also start a hobby group etc, something not solely focused on socializing.
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Not a bad idea. I was decent-ish at German at some point, maybe I could pick it up again and go from there. My interests are quite niche you see, however I do like making music.
 
I do know an autistic lady who has never been affected by loneliness. She is happy in her own world and sees herself as her best friend. She doesn't need human interaction. She even says a cat requires more human interaction than she does.

Me, I'm the opposite. I have the same social desires as the average NT does. I was born with social desires, because I was a very sociable baby and toddler.
 
Misty Avich said:
I do know an autistic lady who has never been affected by loneliness. She is happy in her own world and sees herself as her best friend. She doesn't need human interaction. She even says a cat requires more human interaction than she does.

Me, I'm the opposite. I have the same social desires as the average NT does. I was born with social desires, because I was a very sociable baby and toddler.
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Completely relate to you on that, it really sucks. I’m glad to hear that about that woman you know though, at least she can dance in the rain if you know what I mean so to speak.
 
Chimorin said:
Completely relate to you on that, it really sucks. I’m glad to hear that about that woman you know though, at least she can dance in the rain if you know what I mean so to speak.
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Yes, I'm glad for her too. It's cool to be like that. Like I say, autism is a gift, curse or neither here nor there, depending on how it affects you personally. I wouldn't go expecting everyone else to call it a curse just because I feel it is for me. Autism is a gift to a lot of people. That's cool.
 
Misty Avich said:
Yes, I'm glad for her too. It's cool to be like that. Like I say, autism is a gift, curse or neither here nor there, depending on how it affects you personally. I wouldn't go expecting everyone else to call it a curse just because I feel it is for me. Autism is a gift to a lot of people. That's cool.
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I view it as a curse myself, but ay, if they can dance in the rain, good for them. It really robbed me of a lot of opportunities though personally.
 
Chimorin said:
I view it as a curse myself, but ay, if they can dance in the rain, good for them. It really robbed me of a lot of opportunities though personally.
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For me my symptoms aren't useful. My anxiety makes me overthink everything and be a scared wimp. I can't hyperfocus on useful things, only things that wind me up and make me anxious (I guess because it requires less conscious focus and more emotion, I don't know), I'm hypersensitive to some sounds but it doesn't make me hear things better than others, I only see details when it comes to anxiety and emotions, I cannot retain facts (unless it's people facts, like people's names and birth dates), and my obsessions have never been useful or smart, they were based on people only and just made me look like a stalker and almost got in trouble with the law.

So yeah, if these are symptoms of ASD at all, this is how it's always presented in me since around adolescence.
 
Misty Avich said:
For me my symptoms aren't useful. My anxiety makes me overthink everything and be a scared wimp. I can't hyperfocus on useful things, only things that wind me up and make me anxious (I guess because it requires less conscious focus and more emotion, I don't know), I'm hypersensitive to some sounds but it doesn't make me hear things better than others, I only see details when it comes to anxiety and emotions, I cannot retain facts (unless it's people facts, like people's names and birth dates), and my obsessions have never been useful or smart, they were based on people only and just made me look like a stalker and almost got in trouble with the law.

So yeah, if these are symptoms of ASD at all, this is how it's always presented in me since around adolescence.
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Yep, I’m the exact same, it’s really, really a nuisance. I hate having this too, I just want to live my life y’know?
 
Chimorin said:
Yep, I’m the exact same, it’s really, really a nuisance. I hate having this too, I just want to live my life y’know?
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I just hate the way it affected me as a teenager. Everyone knowing about my diagnosis didn't help. I was excluded by my peers and treated like I was worthless. It was really difficult. And I wasn't even that socially inept.
 
Misty Avich said:
I just hate the way it affected me as a teenager. Everyone knowing about my diagnosis didn't help. I was excluded by my peers and treated like I was worthless. It was really difficult. And I wasn't even that socially inept.
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I really relate to you on that, I was absolutely nothing to them. I was just the ‘special’ (their words, not mine) one they could get free laughs out of, punched me, kicked me, made my life miserable. I don’t really think I ever really recovered from that ostracisation.
 
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