Hi. I'm new here and identify as a self-diagnosed Aspie.
I don't mind losing a game whether it be a board game or a video game. What I hate is when I put a lot of effort into trying to win, only to lose. It's like what was the point. Also, I hate people who gloat when they win. Those two things set me off and I can't control my emotions sometimes.
A few examples would be:
I don't mind losing mindless games like dominoes, rummy, Oh Hell, Life, or Sorry.
I get super frustrated losing strategic games or games that require mental effort like Contract Rummy/Zioncheck, Ticket to Ride, Alhambra, or La Strada.
Right now, I'm having an issue with the only video game I play, which is an online multiplayer game very similar to Mario Kart Wii (a racing game).
I get frustrated when I lose because of the effort I put into winning. Like, playing to win causes my body to tense up and my breathing changes. I think I must hold my breath during the races. Sometimes, I even end up with back pain from tensing up.
When I play the video game with the intention of not winning, I don't have any issues.
So, it appears to me that my issue is that I get upset when I lose a game that requires a lot of mental effort. To me, I think it's that I put in all this effort only to lose.
I also hate when people who started out worse than me, who I could easily beat, end up becoming better than me. It's like, everyone is better than me at something. Why can't I be better than others at something? It's frustrating that I can't. So I think there's also feelings of inferiority at play here.
So, can anyone give me some tips for overcoming my issues? I know I have these issues, and that's great to know. But I can't seem to overcome them. I often feel like my mind is playing mind games with itself. It is a big problem.
I thought I'd try playing the video game while drunk, but sometimes that results in me actually cursing at people. I haven't tried taking Xanax before playing. It might be worth it to try, just to see what happens.
I don't mind losing a game whether it be a board game or a video game. What I hate is when I put a lot of effort into trying to win, only to lose. It's like what was the point. Also, I hate people who gloat when they win. Those two things set me off and I can't control my emotions sometimes.
A few examples would be:
I don't mind losing mindless games like dominoes, rummy, Oh Hell, Life, or Sorry.
I get super frustrated losing strategic games or games that require mental effort like Contract Rummy/Zioncheck, Ticket to Ride, Alhambra, or La Strada.
Right now, I'm having an issue with the only video game I play, which is an online multiplayer game very similar to Mario Kart Wii (a racing game).
I get frustrated when I lose because of the effort I put into winning. Like, playing to win causes my body to tense up and my breathing changes. I think I must hold my breath during the races. Sometimes, I even end up with back pain from tensing up.
When I play the video game with the intention of not winning, I don't have any issues.
So, it appears to me that my issue is that I get upset when I lose a game that requires a lot of mental effort. To me, I think it's that I put in all this effort only to lose.
I also hate when people who started out worse than me, who I could easily beat, end up becoming better than me. It's like, everyone is better than me at something. Why can't I be better than others at something? It's frustrating that I can't. So I think there's also feelings of inferiority at play here.
So, can anyone give me some tips for overcoming my issues? I know I have these issues, and that's great to know. But I can't seem to overcome them. I often feel like my mind is playing mind games with itself. It is a big problem.
I thought I'd try playing the video game while drunk, but sometimes that results in me actually cursing at people. I haven't tried taking Xanax before playing. It might be worth it to try, just to see what happens.