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How can I deal with being bullied because of my disability?

dancerxoxo123 said:
A while back there was a group on Facebook talking about me saying he would never date me because of my disability even if he’s paid to and one guy said he finally figured out I had a disability when I wanted to meet up to hook up and he said something doesn’t seem right about me and seemed “off”. Another guy said I’m not all right in the head. Why does no one like me and want to date me? I have a mild intellectual disability and high functioning autism and this is what I have to deal with on a daily basis. Why are most guys like this when they discover me? They made a whole Facebook group about me
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I think finding others in a similar (or somewhat worse) situation as yourself (autistic, intellectually disabled, or similar disabling condition) would help to reduce the likelihood of having these issues.
 
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dancerxoxo123 said:
I’m on the fence. He only said it when he’s mad but he told me to my face he accepts me. I really hope they drop the guardianship. I am smart enough not to need it. How do I make them drop it completely? They refuse to drop it
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Mad or not, he has told you who he really is. He will not change ("That cake is already baked"). It sounds like he is trying to manipulate you. Autistics aren't the only people who mask. If you want to be manipulated, keep him. If not, dump him. The choice is as simple as that.

As far as the guardianship is concerned, I agree you may need an attorney. These cases are more of a "guilty until proven innocent" type of thing. You will have to convince a judge that you do not need a guardian. If a guardian is decided, insist or demand a guardian of your choice or acceptable to you. Some of the court appointed guardians can treat you as their own personal property, to do with as they please. Be careful and good luck.
 
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dancerxoxo123 said:
Yeah why would they do this?
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It is called "Prey on the weak." Anonymity allows weak people to appear to be strong and satisfy their egos. Anonymity also has benefits. I could not say much of what I say here without the anonymity afforded by this forum, it allows me to appear stronger than I really am. The difference is, I try to help people avoid or deal with the pain I have experienced (and they say we don't have empathy).
 
I was bullied for being "weird" my whole life, and it's an ongoing struggle even in my 30s, in lots of social situations. So now I tend to gravitate towards people who are more like myself (odd, quirky, etc) and distance myself from people who are jerks. I've gotten really good at giving people fewer chances and learning when it's time to cut it off. Don't tolerate "friends" being mean. They're not friends.

Hiding behind a computer to say mean things to someone, especially if they're making multiple troll accounts, really speaks volumes about that person's character. Insulting anyone for any reason at all, over and over again, speaks volumes too. And romantic partners should never, ever berate or bully their spouses. These are not people you want in your life.

I wish you all the best and hope you can find people who are accepting, and share your struggles/disabilities. It seems like an uphill battle at times, but they are out there and you will come across them.
Probably best to avoid social media too. I can't speak to most social media sites as I've been gone from them for a decade, but even some of the comments I see on seemingly innocent YouTube videos are shocking. People really like to run their mouths when they're hiding behind a front of anonymity. Stay safe.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
Why I do not bother with social media , wife uses facebook I use linkedin,
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I have a LinkedIn account. I was required to set one up during my Biowork studies, but it doesn't do much for me. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do with it. I responded to some comments from certain organizations and accepted an offer to get some newsletter or something. I also followed at least two people from school when it offered them as someone to follow, but don't know how to communicate with them or where they communicate on it. It sends me emails about things people I am NOT following posted which is irritating. I find the whole site strange at this point. I know there is probably some trick to navigating it, but I'm not sure what exactly. I don't know what you are supposed to chat about either. I thought it was a job finding site. Why would you be posting comment It should be listing jobs not comments, shouldn't it. I tried to cancel the account but it was still there. I wish I wasn't on LinkedIn.😠
 
I never used linkedin for job hunting when I found about it I use it as a social site. Currently most of my contacts are family or friends. I strongly suspect linkedin is associated with this site, looking for us.
FayetheADHDsquirrel said:
I have a LinkedIn account. I was required to set one up during my Biowork studies, but it doesn't do much for me. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do with it. I responded to some comments from certain organizations and accepted an offer to get some newsletter or something. I also followed at least two people from school when it offered them as someone to follow, but don't know how to communicate with them or where they communicate on it. It sends me emails about things people I am NOT following posted which is irritating. I find the whole site strange at this point. I know there is probably some trick to navigating it, but I'm not sure what exactly. I don't know what you are supposed to chat about either. I thought it was a job finding site. Why would you be posting comment It should be listing jobs not comments, shouldn't it. I tried to cancel the account but it was still there. I wish I wasn't on LinkedIn.😠
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What I'm finding, it is not a conventional job finding site, You have to blow your own horn. For job hunting use Indeed, They still send me positions even through I clearly state retired on my linkedin I suspect the two are related.
I just recently put on my article about colour control on linkedin on a group about colour control. Now I can engage in discussions about how to control colour, If I was job hunting you really make connections with others who share your interests. Some potential employers. So the trick is the groups join them meet others that share your interests start chatting, been doing this for years I like chatting with other coil coating experts, from all over the planet.
 
Faye the trick is use it to network, join groups that interest you let them know you are seeking employment make some friends much like here. As they get to know you, people seeking employees will find you. What I noticed over the years the site is evolving. Years ago I got involved in a number of discussions about coil coating some got heated. format changed soon after. Either way great way to get yourself out there.
 
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LinkedIn has been in the news recently, regarding it having changed a lot in recent years and becoming more like a social media website rather than a website primarily about business/work.
 
cooljethro said:
LinkedIn has been in the news recently, regarding it having changed a lot in recent years and becoming more like a social media website rather than a website primarily about business/work.
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I use it sort of like both, being retired and an expert in some specialized areas. Noticed a number others involved in colour control reading my article on how to control colour. They want to change positions, like my advice.
 
I can't even find the handful of people that I followed at the beginning and we don't really have the same interests if I could. I followed them as a courtesy because we went to class together, but have no idea what they are or are not doing on LinkedIn since I hit follow. That site just doesn't seem as easy to navigate as this one. It seems like a bunch of articles and comments from business owners that you are allowed to thumbs up or comment on. I like Indeed much better.
 
To start go to search try science as that is an interest of yours this will probably lead to groups on science. you will find others that are into science put something together about your interest in science. issues you are having moving your education forward. you will be surprised where it will go. Some Groups are private others public, The private ones. will filter out if you belong. Like for me joining the colour control group I Had to prove I was an expert on colour. The moderator looked at my resume and within hours I was in. Keep in mind this site was intended for networking. So you have to find your tribe.
 
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dancerxoxo123 said:
He

He didn’t call me a retard I thought he did
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You actually said you suspected he was saying it behind your back. People who use the r-word are unlikely to bring you happiness. In my experience they are social climbers who value mainstream group norms > tolerating neurodivergence. everything in life is a trade-off, hope you are making the right choices.
 
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