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How can I deal with being bullied because of my disability?

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dancerxoxo123

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A while back there was a group on Facebook talking about me saying he would never date me because of my disability even if he’s paid to and one guy said he finally figured out I had a disability when I wanted to meet up to hook up and he said something doesn’t seem right about me and seemed “off”. Another guy said I’m not all right in the head. Why does no one like me and want to date me? I have a mild intellectual disability and high functioning autism and this is what I have to deal with on a daily basis. Why are most guys like this when they discover me? They made a whole Facebook group about me
 
I would recommend staying off of Facebook for your own mental health considering the situation.
 
Two lessons learned:

1) Best to keep your autism on a need-to-know basis only. Never tell anyone who doesn't absolutely need to know unless you are mentally prepared for criticism and confrontation.

When their response can be unpredictable and disappointing. Even with those you think may know you well. And if you do choose to do so, know it's taking a risk. Some situations may be better than others.

2) Just say no to Facebook. While some of our ranks use it, other find it simply toxic. A forum where you're likely to feel like you've just been "fed to the lions". Not a mentally healthy place IMO for many neurodiverse persons to socialize in. Where the odds of meeting those who don't understand us and may not want to can happen very quickly.

This forum will always remain an exception in this regard. Where most of us are autistic and can relate to such experiences.

In the times I was willing to openly discuss my autism with NTs online (other than here), the results were almost always bad ones. Where you would likely be dealing with one central theme: prejudice based simply on the notion of being "different", and in a way that most will simply not understand.
 
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So what happened? Did he leave you or you leave him? And have your parents dropped their attempt to have a third-party medical guardian monitor your life ?
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He was upset about the guardianship and always called me the r word and a child behind my back but still wants to see me idk if we are fully broken up but he needs to understand about my situation better
 
dancerxoxo123 said:
He was upset about the guardianship and always called me the r word and a child behind my back but still wants to see me idk if we are fully broken up but he needs to understand about my situation better
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So do you refuse to see him now? What do your parents think at this point? Will they drop the guardianship if he's out of the picture, or do they intend to still follow through on that ?

Frankly IMO much of anyone who calls you the r word as an autistic person should not be part of your life- period. No one deserves that kind of abuse.
 
I recommend not using social media such as Facebook if you can help it. I have personally had bad experiences on there and frankly, some of the autistic people on Facebook don't seem much better than the toxic NT types.

YMMV.
 
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