Hi! I don't know if I'm in the "right" place and don't mean to offend if I am wrong, but my mind is starting to hurt from all the back and forward if I should or not speak up...
I'm 27 years old and I think I might be on the spectrum. I never felt I was like others but have always dismissed it as everybody is different and others are probably just better at hiding their struggle. Plenty of years ago I've thought Asperger's would fit me but then there was other stuff that I was missing. Also any kind of "mental abnormality" is major tabu in my family even though there's not one normal person there.
I have 2 boys, one of which has recently turned 3 and doesn't speak a word but is otherwise extremely intelligent and brilliant. Indeed he has spoken a word or 2 here and there and lost those. We finally got him to be accessed by Speach Therapy (we have been told up to now that it was because there were 3 languages in the household) and we were told it was definitely not laziness nor too many idioms. Since he was about 6 weeks that I've pushing the sense that he was autistic as my own paranoia and another of my mind's quirks as no-one else could see it, and been getting all kinds of excuses as to why my son was different. Now I'm tired of these excuses and so I started reading, finding out what I could about it and how to better help my boy. The more I read the more I could identify myself with it. I spoke about it at length with my husband and he agrees that a number of things I do looks connected with it; also said that I looked like I need my son to be on the spectrum, just because I'm studying.
Is it possible I'm the cause for my son's condition? Or he's just socially awkward because me and dad are too and it might not be autism? How possible for the youngest to be affected too? How can I help both of them? Is it worth it to get the diagnosis myself, besides knowing myself? Any therapy that could be beneficial at this point?
I'm sorry for how long it became and if it's confusing, it made more sense before writing it...
I'm 27 years old and I think I might be on the spectrum. I never felt I was like others but have always dismissed it as everybody is different and others are probably just better at hiding their struggle. Plenty of years ago I've thought Asperger's would fit me but then there was other stuff that I was missing. Also any kind of "mental abnormality" is major tabu in my family even though there's not one normal person there.
I have 2 boys, one of which has recently turned 3 and doesn't speak a word but is otherwise extremely intelligent and brilliant. Indeed he has spoken a word or 2 here and there and lost those. We finally got him to be accessed by Speach Therapy (we have been told up to now that it was because there were 3 languages in the household) and we were told it was definitely not laziness nor too many idioms. Since he was about 6 weeks that I've pushing the sense that he was autistic as my own paranoia and another of my mind's quirks as no-one else could see it, and been getting all kinds of excuses as to why my son was different. Now I'm tired of these excuses and so I started reading, finding out what I could about it and how to better help my boy. The more I read the more I could identify myself with it. I spoke about it at length with my husband and he agrees that a number of things I do looks connected with it; also said that I looked like I need my son to be on the spectrum, just because I'm studying.
Is it possible I'm the cause for my son's condition? Or he's just socially awkward because me and dad are too and it might not be autism? How possible for the youngest to be affected too? How can I help both of them? Is it worth it to get the diagnosis myself, besides knowing myself? Any therapy that could be beneficial at this point?
I'm sorry for how long it became and if it's confusing, it made more sense before writing it...
