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Has anyone here besides me ever been ghosted by a friend before? I just want to know that i'm not alone in this, if others can relate to me.

unfortuneately, my friend whom i started this thread about, its happening again, i haven't spoken to him since the end of June, i feel i'm being ghosted all over again.

Last time he ghosted me back in October of last year, which led to a 4-month hiatus of zero contact, prior to being ghosted, he told me he was going to these group therapy sessions for his mental/emotional health.

My only guess is that this is happening all over again, this time he never mentioned anything prior but its my guess its the same thing.

But yeah, once again, it hurts a lot, its frustrating. me and my brother miss him a lot.
 
yeah, if my former friend, or just, its complicated to say, if me and him ever reconnect again, this time i'm wondering if i should cut him out of my life this time because this is becoming too much, him ghosting me like this, and besides, if someone is going through a mental health crisis, you would think the last thing they would want to do is distance themselves from friends.
 
@Steelbookcollector217
Your feelings make sense to me. It might be worth a chance to explain to this friend that him "ghosting" you when he isn't feeling well is not something you want to continually deal with. If you want to give him a chance, that is.

It's understandable why people shut down and shut people out during a mental health crisis, but that doesn't mean that the people in their lives just have to take it. It's not right to continually disappear on people if both sides are not okay with that. If you decided that you didn't want to be friends with him any more, that seems reasonable.
 
Rodafina said:
@Steelbookcollector217
Your feelings make sense to me. It might be worth a chance to explain to this friend that him "ghosting" you when he isn't feeling well is not something you want to continually deal with. If you want to give him a chance, that is.

It's understandable why people shut down and shut people out during a mental health crisis, but that doesn't mean that the people in their lives just have to take it. It's not right to continually disappear on people if both sides are not okay with that. If you decided that you didn't want to be friends with him any more, that seems reasonable.
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yeah but at the same time, i don't want to lose him since i have a scarcity of friends, i've always had a small network of friends.
 
Steelbookcollector217 said:
to sum it up, i feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.
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I am sad you are feeling this way.
It does sound like a really hard place to be in.

I know your friend is struggling and compassion is important, but he's put you in a pretty tough situation here. It seems like being friends with him might involve him sometimes disappearing and you have to ask yourself if you are okay with that.
 
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