Clara
Well-Known Member
Hi
I'm in my 40s and have just self diagnosed. My daughter's been saying I've got Asperger's for years but I didn't take her seriously. Two weeks ago I had an epiphany and - after quizzing people close to me - suddenly realised that I don't think like other people. It's been a bit of a shock and a bit of a relief. Suddenly I understand why I find certain things so challenging.
What I'm struggling with is if I should get a formal diagnosis. In some ways I don't want to know - a formal diagnosis will confirm that I will never be the same as other people, which makes me feel sad. On the other hand, maybe it will help me embrace my differences and learn how to handle things better.
I'm a bit confused at the moment, and also feeling a bit lonely, as my partner and daughter don't really get it. I've got a successful career, am a good parent and have lots of friends, but this has knocked my confidence a bit. I feel like I've been faking being a "normal" person all these years, and patting myself on the back for hiding it so well.
Anyway, apologies for wallowing, it won't be for long. I am a resourceful person and I will make the best of this. I guess it would help to get others' opinions on whether a formal diagnosis will be helpful.
Clara
I'm in my 40s and have just self diagnosed. My daughter's been saying I've got Asperger's for years but I didn't take her seriously. Two weeks ago I had an epiphany and - after quizzing people close to me - suddenly realised that I don't think like other people. It's been a bit of a shock and a bit of a relief. Suddenly I understand why I find certain things so challenging.
What I'm struggling with is if I should get a formal diagnosis. In some ways I don't want to know - a formal diagnosis will confirm that I will never be the same as other people, which makes me feel sad. On the other hand, maybe it will help me embrace my differences and learn how to handle things better.
I'm a bit confused at the moment, and also feeling a bit lonely, as my partner and daughter don't really get it. I've got a successful career, am a good parent and have lots of friends, but this has knocked my confidence a bit. I feel like I've been faking being a "normal" person all these years, and patting myself on the back for hiding it so well.
Anyway, apologies for wallowing, it won't be for long. I am a resourceful person and I will make the best of this. I guess it would help to get others' opinions on whether a formal diagnosis will be helpful.
Clara
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