Tomorrow is graduation and there is supposed to be a after the graduation ceremony party for all of us. I was just wondering if anyone could offer some heads up as to what to expect.
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Graduation And After Graduation Ceremony Party
- Thread starter FayetheADHDsquirrel
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All right, congratulations on graduating from your school. You earned it. I got close, never did, ended up filming what could've been my graduation and attending my brother's.
The ceremony will be long. I do not know how you are with long ceremonies but you can always excuse yourself if overstimulated by pretending to need the bathroom--have someone in the crowd send you a text message or time yourself using your watch.
The party will probably be something like a large reception. At least your outfit is pretty well planned (graduation cap & gown) so you don't have to buy anything else--unless you want to change, or if there's a dress code for the party i don't know about. Wear comfortable shoes and carry a pair of earplugs if you need to.
Some colleges serve alcohol at these; I don't know if that applies here.
The commencement speeches are frequently boring. I have a bit of comically bad luck as a member of the queer community, between asexuality and...well, there's a lot of gender dysphoria but we're working on it...and so that means I get to sit in a crowd of people who think autism is something to be cured while some greybeard insults me unknowingly and says we're all threats to society who should be rounded up and re-educated.
Personally Faye if I were you and had horses and a graduation, I'd ask them to mail me my diploma and go get on the horse with a picnic basket and go ride somewhere in the woods to read a scientific text or some peer-reviewed journals under the tree and have a sandwich. So that's an option if you don't like the graduation party for later, just something to keep you going if you turn up & don't like it.
However it goes, congratulations on putting in the effort.
The ceremony will be long. I do not know how you are with long ceremonies but you can always excuse yourself if overstimulated by pretending to need the bathroom--have someone in the crowd send you a text message or time yourself using your watch.
The party will probably be something like a large reception. At least your outfit is pretty well planned (graduation cap & gown) so you don't have to buy anything else--unless you want to change, or if there's a dress code for the party i don't know about. Wear comfortable shoes and carry a pair of earplugs if you need to.
Some colleges serve alcohol at these; I don't know if that applies here.
The commencement speeches are frequently boring. I have a bit of comically bad luck as a member of the queer community, between asexuality and...well, there's a lot of gender dysphoria but we're working on it...and so that means I get to sit in a crowd of people who think autism is something to be cured while some greybeard insults me unknowingly and says we're all threats to society who should be rounded up and re-educated.
Personally Faye if I were you and had horses and a graduation, I'd ask them to mail me my diploma and go get on the horse with a picnic basket and go ride somewhere in the woods to read a scientific text or some peer-reviewed journals under the tree and have a sandwich. So that's an option if you don't like the graduation party for later, just something to keep you going if you turn up & don't like it.
However it goes, congratulations on putting in the effort.
We are supposed to wear our lab coats instead of a cap and gown.
Well that's a lot better option especially since you already have a lab coat and wear it all the time anyway doing scientific things.
You do have a horse yourself, don't you? I thought I saw a photo of it on the forum somewhere before.
I had been taking lessons and befriended someone else's horse. She was pretty damn old and I hope she's doing well and continuing to eat grass, snap at her pasturemates, pretend to cough while working, and be hard-headed.
The local barn is pretty good at catering to rich snotty white girls and honestly I already have enough fear of being perceived, so there is that.
Academics, hobbies, and that sort of thing are not something I have the leisure to pursue at the moment.
Well, done on this great accomplishment, @FayetheAspie. I think one thing to keep in mind is that you have already earned the certificate and your level of participation in ceremonies and celebrations is up to you.
By the time I hit grad school, I realized that I didn't have to participate in anything that I didn't want to. My degree is just as valid as anyone else's, even though I skipped out on my ceremony and did not participate in any celebratory social events.
If there's any part of you that wants to partake in shared celebration with your faculty and classmates, then by all means go for it, but in your shoes, I would keep in mind that it's all up to you at this point.
This is something you worked hard for and a time for joy and feeling proud. You can participate in whatever parts of this make you feel good and then you can quietly excuse yourself as soon as you are done.
By the time I hit grad school, I realized that I didn't have to participate in anything that I didn't want to. My degree is just as valid as anyone else's, even though I skipped out on my ceremony and did not participate in any celebratory social events.
If there's any part of you that wants to partake in shared celebration with your faculty and classmates, then by all means go for it, but in your shoes, I would keep in mind that it's all up to you at this point.
This is something you worked hard for and a time for joy and feeling proud. You can participate in whatever parts of this make you feel good and then you can quietly excuse yourself as soon as you are done.
I thought about finding a table by myself just to see if anyone would come to sit with me 
I sit at a table by myself at our work Christmas parties. Not to see if anyone would sit with me, because they always ask if I want to sit with a group. But so I can be there, observe, know what’s going on, and still relax and have a peaceful time.I thought about finding a table by myself just to see if anyone would come to sit with me
Congratulations, Faye! That’s wonderful! 
I’ve tried sitting at an empty table and see what happens at social events with mixed results.
Like others, I skipped the parties.
Whatever you do, remember you have accomplished a great goal and can be proud of that.
I’ve tried sitting at an empty table and see what happens at social events with mixed results.
Like others, I skipped the parties.
Whatever you do, remember you have accomplished a great goal and can be proud of that.
I thought about finding a table by myself just to see if anyone would come to sit with me
Could be that in their minds, you upset the curve. Whether one exists or not. When higher education involves competitors subject to the pressures of a job market.
A very different social dynamic in play since high school.
Your bad! - Well done.
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There's a Beyonce performance of her on a horse on Netflix! Beyonce Bowl or something like that! Yeehaw!
I actually don't even know who that is. I have heard the name before, but I wouldn't recognize her if she was standing right in front of me.
She is the second most popular singer in the world overall.
First would be Taylor Swift.
Google "Beyonce Single Ladies" and "Beyonce Crazy In Love" if you want.
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