I am increasingly finding that I am getting trapped in conversations because I do not want to be rude. I have posted how this works, someone comes up says something.......I use a few words and then it just goes on and on.
Yesterday some guy sat right down next to me and started to tell me his whole life. It always starts with someone asking what I am reading.
If I tell them, they want to know WHY I am reading it "Are you in college?" That is always question number two.
Then they go into all this detail about where they went to school and how many terms and what they do now, and I start to feel suffocated.
Now, I know people are lonely. In the past, I felt that burden, to be the one to let people unload to. I am small and innocuous looking, so I get this a lot. People feel I am safe and I like that. I ALSO like to talk to people who want two way conversation and at least let me squeek out a few words.
But, because of my nature and how I look, I am either ignored or dumped on. And I CAN"T get out of it!!!!
So I sit there and start to zone and feel all panicky. I am autistic and I have a schedule i HAVE to keep!! With 30 minutes off, the whole day can go to hell pretty fast.
How do you guys STOP a convseration that has turned into nothing more than a dump session for the other person?? Please post of you know.
It is not in my nature to be rude, so I can't just up and walk away. But I am looking for things to say. I do try to say, "I have to go" but often I am in a place where I do NOT have to leave, like a gym or something. I just want back into my own headspace.
I can't say, " I have to go back into my own thoughts now. Bye"
Yesterday some guy sat right down next to me and started to tell me his whole life. It always starts with someone asking what I am reading.
If I tell them, they want to know WHY I am reading it "Are you in college?" That is always question number two.
Then they go into all this detail about where they went to school and how many terms and what they do now, and I start to feel suffocated.
Now, I know people are lonely. In the past, I felt that burden, to be the one to let people unload to. I am small and innocuous looking, so I get this a lot. People feel I am safe and I like that. I ALSO like to talk to people who want two way conversation and at least let me squeek out a few words.
But, because of my nature and how I look, I am either ignored or dumped on. And I CAN"T get out of it!!!!
So I sit there and start to zone and feel all panicky. I am autistic and I have a schedule i HAVE to keep!! With 30 minutes off, the whole day can go to hell pretty fast.
How do you guys STOP a convseration that has turned into nothing more than a dump session for the other person?? Please post of you know.
It is not in my nature to be rude, so I can't just up and walk away. But I am looking for things to say. I do try to say, "I have to go" but often I am in a place where I do NOT have to leave, like a gym or something. I just want back into my own headspace.
I can't say, " I have to go back into my own thoughts now. Bye"