JDShredds
Well-Known Member
I can only contribute my perspective: In my experience as a male, as a general rule when I was growing up I always got along more naturally with females one on one as it was much easier to cut through the crap and have a genuine relationship. This was established as early as I started making friends. I had guy friends, but the vast majority of the time they were all disgusting, idiotic twats and I couldn't stand 99% of them, yet I mirrored their behavior when around them so as not to be completely cast off (I wasn't really aware I was doing this until a female friend told me I was a completely different person around the guys).
I never identified with macho BS, and it starts remarkably young. Once I got into my teen years, I went home school, isolated myself, and cut out the male mirroring. At that point most of my friendships were online with a fairly equal balance, but the ones with females were undoubtedly more satisfying and natural. Male posturing makes me want to puke. Its childish and stupid.
With that said, in adulthood its much more complicated. My closest female friend had to cut our friendship off a few years back because her partner is jealous (even though we live 3000 miles apart). And that's the crux as you mature. Those kinds of friendships become much more difficult to maintain.
My two remaining best friends happen to be male... but they're also both on the spectrum, so that changes the dynamic. Male NT's... I have almost nothing in common with most of them other than the occasional interests. But even then, world outlook and attitude is usually incompatible with a few exceptions.
I have a very genuine and sensitive side to me that melds better with females, yet that's not to be confused with any gender fluidity in my case. I'm quite masculine, just in an unusual way. I feel my truest self when in friendship with females.
I never identified with macho BS, and it starts remarkably young. Once I got into my teen years, I went home school, isolated myself, and cut out the male mirroring. At that point most of my friendships were online with a fairly equal balance, but the ones with females were undoubtedly more satisfying and natural. Male posturing makes me want to puke. Its childish and stupid.
With that said, in adulthood its much more complicated. My closest female friend had to cut our friendship off a few years back because her partner is jealous (even though we live 3000 miles apart). And that's the crux as you mature. Those kinds of friendships become much more difficult to maintain.
My two remaining best friends happen to be male... but they're also both on the spectrum, so that changes the dynamic. Male NT's... I have almost nothing in common with most of them other than the occasional interests. But even then, world outlook and attitude is usually incompatible with a few exceptions.
I have a very genuine and sensitive side to me that melds better with females, yet that's not to be confused with any gender fluidity in my case. I'm quite masculine, just in an unusual way. I feel my truest self when in friendship with females.