dragonfire42
Perpetual outsider
I've been long-distance friends with someone for some time now. I've mentioned several times that I'm a nonromantic asexual, but sometimes he tries to push our relationship more toward a romantic one. Recently we had a discussion that I thought had reached the conclusion that we're good friends but nothing more, but then a couple days later I finally accepted the friend request he'd sent me on Facebook a while ago (I'm not on Facebook very much but happened to be going through my email and clicked on a Facebook link and while I was there, I saw that friend request and accepted it), and he took the timing of that to indicate that I do have more than just friendly feelings for him.
Even after I'd explained what happened, he insisted that he just "knows" I have some sort of feelings that I don't want to admit for some reason. The thing is, I don't, and I'm really getting tired of this. This person is my best friend, my only real friend, and I really don't want to lose this friendship, but I'm starting to get really frustrated by this, and I don't know how to tell him without sounding too harsh, or like I'm protesting too much and that must be another sign that I'm hiding my true feelings.
I love him as a friend, but I've never experienced the feeling of romantic love, ever, toward anyone. How can I help him understand this?
Even after I'd explained what happened, he insisted that he just "knows" I have some sort of feelings that I don't want to admit for some reason. The thing is, I don't, and I'm really getting tired of this. This person is my best friend, my only real friend, and I really don't want to lose this friendship, but I'm starting to get really frustrated by this, and I don't know how to tell him without sounding too harsh, or like I'm protesting too much and that must be another sign that I'm hiding my true feelings.
I love him as a friend, but I've never experienced the feeling of romantic love, ever, toward anyone. How can I help him understand this?